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Hey!
A girl, who I thought was my best friend, just told me that she got drunk with this other girl who I dont like. I am totally against drinking and drugs and fooling around. This other girl who I dont like is named Brooke. Brooke and I used to be really good friends, but whenever Brooke hangs out with different people, besides me and Anne(the girl who got drunk,My "bestfriend") she is like a totally different person. Brooke has guys over and fools around, she steals make up and other items from stores. She cuses alot too. So does Anne. I also dont like cussing. The thing is, I still want to be friends with Anne for sure, but not so much Brooke, because we are all sophmores, but This has been going on with Brooke since the eighth grade. She is only my friend, and nice to me when it is convienent for her. Now Anne and I have known eachother for a long time, but then we were not friends during middle school. Anne is really a nice girl, but I dont like it that she likes to drink. And I am also concerned about what I tell my "bestfriend" because she could go and tell it to Brooke. What should I do about this? Im soo confused. I want to be friends with them both, but Im soo lost. I will NOT start to drink or fool around with guys. And I do not want to get into something that I cant get my self out of. I am totally happy with my boyfriend of over a year and 7months, and he does not drink or cuss either. we dont "fool around" either. What should I do?
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-Kelsey-
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You can't stop your friends from behaving however they please when you are not around, you can't even control them when you are around really. You can only decide if you still want to be friends with them and ask them to kindly not tell you about things they know you'll disagree with.
You seem to have trouble trusting Anne as well. Which isn't so great. If you can't talk to her and trust she isn't running to Brooke with all your secrets then you have a whole different problem there.
If you are happy the way you are and you realize your friends wont change thier ways, you'll have to think more seriously about being thier friends. I don't mean turn around and be a bitch to them, just let them drift away, and find people who share your values.
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aww im happy you dont folow people who are doing everyhting so fast.
you shouldnt really talk to her because she is going on brooks side. the "dark" side
dont talk to her, loose her as a friend she isnt really one if she drinks and all of that if you are against it. you should tell a adult or a school counciler. but tell them to keep ypur name privite (i can't spell that sorry)
try to find new friends, keep yourself with your boyfriend. its great that you are going well with him.
sit with random people at lunch thats how you get friends and stuff, right?
talk to people in your class also. or maybe just sit alone its always better alone for some reason you pay more attention to yourself.
x Oo GOOD LUCK!
♥ kiss me
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The thing is if Anne wants to get wrecked and loaded every single night there is not a damn thing you can do to stop her with that or with drugs. You can talk all you want and get resented in the process. Instead, talk to a trusted adult, say I am concerned for Anne as I see her getting wasted all the time. etc. That may help force adult intervention. You however, cannot change addicts or those in over their heads like that.Regardless of who tries to help she either learns easily or learns harder.
Do you really want to be her friend or is this out of needing a friend period? If she does not want to be around you when it counts than forget it as it is too much effort on something one sided. If you want to be her friend tell her not to drink or be angry around you as that is not the person you want to be friends with and or friends with those who only want to be around when they want something. Put your foot down and leave it there.
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Kelsey..
Alright im glad to hear that you arent a follower and that your happy with your boyfriend.. But i would talk to your friend Anne about how when your with her you dont want any cussing,drinkin,drugs or fooling around with guys.. i mean bring it up to her about how you feel and maybe even bring up the conseqences of guys drugs and so on.. i am completely against drugs and alcohol myself cause i seen how its ruined my fathers life and sisters.. if this keeps going on after talking and telling her how you feel then id suggest makin new friends i understand that would be hard and you wouldnt want to but it might be for the best.. i mean even just bein around them while they do there thing and your innocent could get you in alot of trouble if they get caught.. im sure you dont want that ive had it happen with a group of friends.. hope i helped let me know how things go by emailing me at xplayb0y_sh0rtix @yahoo.com or leave it in my inbox.. ♥ Dez
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