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OK my grampa just passed away friday and so far it hasn't really hit me that he was gone so I didn't cry right away. Everyone was saying "I'm so sorry.." and stuff. But then the kid I think I love told me that he was so sorry about what happened on my away message( we haven't talked for about 2 weeks) and once I saw that I just started balling my eyes out. I don't know why i particularly did it when he said it. Also, my mom is REALLY strssed out. A year ago on august 28th my aunt died. My moms birthday is august 29th. My grampa (her dad) died the 30th.
So my questions are: How can I make this less strssful for my mom and why did I start crying when he said that he was so sorry about my grampa?? thank you sooo much.
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hey well what you can do to help your mom out is try to take her mind off the things that have happend try to hang out with her and spend time with her more. play board games go out. just get out of the house! and thing about you is.. well a person that you love so much really cares how you feel, so that made you realize whats happening!! well anwyaz i hope i helped and let me know how it turns out.
xoxo brit
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ok the thing is that wwhen your grampa died like you were feeling sad and stuff but you did not no what to do because you were in love and stuff and you needed someone there to help you and stuff and when your love imed you on your away message you like took that and it went to your heart like he is so sweet so when you hung out with him i think that what he said was so nice and like you were so sad about it he was the guy you need a shoulder to cry on and it was him and yes it is very stressed my grandmom died on my birthday and she lived with me but yes i think that you needed him so bad that when you chilled with him like thats when you wanted to cry it might sound weird and you might think im rong but i went throw the same thing soo ya if you need anymore help my s/n is hockeybob3166
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For your mom, just try to be comforting, she may not be herself and it's your job to be a tower of strength in these tough times. Just try and do stuff around the house for her so it's one less thing she has to worry about. Clean up some rooms, help me dinner, clean dishes, wash clothes, just till she gets her mind back in place. And you probably started to cry because the whole situation became real. When my great grandmother passed away, and we knew it was coming, everyone just sort of delt, and was quiet, we were all locking in these horrible feelings, but the tears wouldn't come. We just arranged what we had to, and that was that. At the end of the night after the funeral, all the sudden my aunt burst into tears and was crying non-stop, I'd never seen an adult cry in such a way. Sometimes we deny things, and at any random moment it just dawns on us big time and hard! It's okay to cry. Let your mom vent to you if she wants, and just try to be as strong as possible and know that everyone has a time, and its a way of life. I am so, so sorry, I know this can't make the pain easier, and I know I don't know him personally, but I still feel really bad for you, it's alot of stress to handle, and sadness. Good Luck!
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dear asker,
i know how you feel..my grandma died right around my birthday and this year my moms best friend died that week so my mother is always sad around my birthday which isnt fun...anyway back to your question.
the only thing i can tell you is that you should comfort your mother..assure her that they are in a better place now, help her out as much as you can.
your next question: i think you recovered over the shock when you saw your crush sorry for you because it was then that you relized that your grampa had died. you were in shock that you just kept thinking that the next time you went to see him, he'd be there becuase of all the times you'd done that before..its normal to have a shock for a while until someone you care about breaks that shock.
if you need any addional advice IM me at ixi l0v3 y0u x0o.
best wishes; xoxo
alexxa marie
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i dont know how you could help your mom but i can tell you why you started crying.
if you find out some shocking news and even if you didnt really know the person or hate the person u get his funny feeling of missing them and realizing that they are not there anymore.
i had that feeling as well but for a slightly different reason. trust me its perfectly normal and it will pass in time.
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