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Within the past year, my life hasn't been the greatest. A lot of things have changed dramatically after I moved to another state, and I'm just not the same person. I used to be very social and happy with myself and how life was going. Now it is the complete opposite. I find myself getting very aggrivated with family, we have money problems, im anti-social, upset, crying for no reason, and starting to develop an eating disorder. I want to be the person I was before I moved. I don't want to get angry or fight with my parents every single time they talk to me. I want to be cheerful, have a positive outlook in life, stop letting my parents make me mad, and let the little things not get to me so much. Any advice?
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I know exactly what you are going through, I did several times in my life. Everytime my family got settled and I met people they would move again. My advice is to remain in touch with your old friends, they know you well and will listen. Don't get stuck on them. Try some new activities, go to events and you will start to meet people. The anger and antisocial thing are somewhat normal. Just try to think about what you say to your parents before you let it go. If you are angry with them confront it calmly and directly, they will respond to it
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I read what you wrote and If I were to say that “you are feeling like a fish out of water”, would the adequately describe how you’re feeling. If it does don’t be so hard on yourself it is going to take time to adjust to your new surroundings and build a life for yourself. You spent your e whole life or a good part of it in your last home town building friendships and building a network of different friends. You had a lifetime to build a life for yourself. Now you are the new person in town, you sound funny to them coming from another state; you might even dress differently than they do. It doesn’t mean you’re not a nice person, it just means they have their friends and for whatever reason they are not open to adding anyone to their circle of friends. It’s not you, it’s them; that’s just the way young adults, teenagers are. I know it does not make it right or even make you feel any better, but knowing this may help you understand and help you better cope with all this.
Now how do you cope with this? How do you let people know that you really are a great person to be around? There are a number of different ways to go about this.
Sports - Do you play a sport? If so try out for one of the teams. If you’re still in school try out for one of the school teams. Try out for one of the teams through your local parks and recreation department.
Baby Sitting – Do you like to baby sit. Put an as in the local Penny Saver paper. When you get to know the adults in town you’ll start meeting the kids or people your own age.
Religious Service – Do you like attending Religious Services? If so join the youth groups. If you sing and there is a choir, try to join the choir.
These are just three things you can do to make friends. The point I am trying to make is that you are use to your friends coming to you. For now you are going to have to make an effort to make friends and go to them. Once people get to know you and find out just how great you are your life will get back to being the way it was before you moved. But first you have to make the effort to make new friends.
You mentioned an eating disorder that has started. This disturbs me. While I feel this will clear up as your life returns to normal I think it best that you speak to your parents about this. Eating disorders can get out of hand in hurry and can become life threatening. You need to see a doctor and speak to a specialist to help you through this. Don’t worry about the cost or if your parents have insurance; there are programs in place to take care of this especially for children that are still in school.
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i think the best thing for you to do see find out what is different now from when you moved. i don't know if your still in school or work or what but let me give you in example say you are in school and before you move you were a cheer leader and now your not try and get back in to cheer leading or whatever it is that you are into or were doing before you moved. little things like that will make the difference because that what makes you happy. and don't think about the money problems you parents will work it out and that's stress that you don't need. but if you find your self in a place were you can not do anything but think about the money problems and want to help then try and get a part time job you will see how just getting out in the world and do something with you time can help get every bad thing that going on off your mind even if it's just for a short time. i hope everything works out for you and wish you the best of luck cc
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wow... this sounds kinda familiar to me ive had problems like that before i just havent been myself things has changed and i dont picture life the way i used to imagine it as riight? well hmmm.. i say you just try and make new friends try to be your old self again maybe lo0k through memories liek pictures.. letters.. and etc. like even though you might cry it might be for the best try to help out your family no matter how hard it is and no matter how much they get on your nerves.... try not to be so negative about things and try not to also think too much because thinking too much and stressin out could give you white hair and you dont want that now do you? well mmk best of luck to you and if you ever neeed anything or any help just message me
*ariana*
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