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Is this wrong?
Hello,well, i have a boyfriend right now.And u see i can't have one right now.and i don't know why i'm almost 16.my mom doens't care,but my dad...oh..he's like SO jealous.he doesn't even want me to have friends (boys),and do u think this is right,what i'm doing? I hardly see him,well i talk to him everyday on the phone while my dad isn't looking.BUt i don't know what to do. thankz for your help.
Brenda
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well i dont think its wrong i mean you are 16! your parents should give you a break!!! seriously you deserve some fun and independance once in a while you kno!!! i think its go0d that you have a boyfriend your not missin out on anything! i think all this you are doign is absolutly riight so no worries! go0d luck with everything and take care!!
*ariana*
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Brenda, this is perfectly fine to do. My parents don't want me to have boyfriends either. But I'm only 14. I've had a couple boyfriends nd stuff so it's fine. Until my mom found out once but she didn't tell my dad. If your mom wouldn't tell your da then tell her because it gives you a way to get to see your boyfriend without sneaking around. And if your dad is like that chances i s he never got a girlfriend til he was 21.
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your dad is just like that becuase he is worried about you...most likely, he trusts you, he just doesnt trust the guys. i think its best not to sneak around your parents back because one, they love you so much and they are only trying to do whats best for you and second, if you do happen to get caught, they will be very heartbroken & dissapointed. you might just want to talk to your mom, let her know whats up and ask her advice.
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I wont weigh in on whether you are old enough to have a boyfriend. But you should be old enough to have a calm and reasonable talk with your parents. If your dad is prone to yelling or ignoring you maybe try your mom first.
You need to tell them that you don't want to sneak around but do want to hang out with this guy, (avoid using the boyfriend word, it will make them nervous) Just tell them you should be allowed to have male friends. Then ask them what they are afriad of? Maybe they just don't want you to be alone with him, maybe they don't want you out late. Anyways, this is the time to compromise so everyone is comfortable, boys will come and go all your life, but parents are forever.
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I think you need to ask dad when he's going to let you grow up! I think you're old enough to have a boyfriend but I'm not your parent. Have mom help you talk with him about it all and set some definite times when it will be OK. I really don't like it that you have to sneak around. If he should find out things could get ugly. Try and have the talk soon and see if you can't resolve it before that happens. :)
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