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boyfriends & college
im gonna be a junior in high school and my boyfriends gonna be a freshman in college.. everyone breaks up before college because its supposed to be some big party n all that bs..i really love him and i really trust him. he says he would never cheat on me and he wants to be serious about school instead of partying all the time.. i wanna believe him, because if i dont we'll break up and i could lose him forever..any ideas or advice? :/ thanks
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College is so different than high school. It is not a big party all the time. It is a bunch of people interested in being at school and gaining knowledge. There are not that many people who don't want to be there. And this can be very attractive to a new person. You meet a very diverse group of people, and it sparks different relationships.
This does not mean that everyone breaks up before college or even after college. If he goes, then let him go. If he is truly meant to be, he will come back. But you will have the same chance sooner than you think.
The good news is that he wants something better for himself. That is an excellant trait to have. Just keep in touch by phone or email or whatever. Hopefully you can still see each other sometimes, but it definitely won't be as often, even if it is down the street.
He doesn't look like he is going anywhere right now. Just be the supportive happy person you know you can be, and he will look forward to seeing you.
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Okay well first of all, in order for me to tell you what i think is going to happen i need some more information. well, as a matter of fact..you don't need to tell me anything else, just ask yourself these questions and that should help you out a little to be prepared for what might happen with you and your boyfriend's relationship..
how long have you known him?
(the longer the better, because you know more of what kind of guy he is)
how long have you been with him?
(if you have only been dating for a short time, chances are he could cheat on you and not care)
is he the "partying type"?
(partiers tend to be typical guys who just want a piece of ass)
does he have a past of cheating on his g/fs?
(if so, NOT a good sign)
has he ever lied to you before?
(i don't know why you would give him a second chance if he lied once, but yeah if he has lied to you..not a good sign either)
does he lie a lot?
(typical guy, just going to break your heart)
is he the "i want a serious relationship type" or the "just wanna get laid, and have a good time type"?
(if he is a more serious guy you have a better chance of your relationship lasting)
how much do you trust him?
(this question can be answered by how many times he has lied/cheated/and/or hurt you)
how much will you see him?
(if you aren't going to see him a lot, he might think he can cheat on you, without you knowing)
will you get to talk to him a lot?
(as well as not seeing him, if you don't talk to him a lot, the chances of you two staying together..is NOT very good at all.)
just talk to him, and tell him how you feel. tell him how much it would hurt you if he cheated on you (don't assume he knows).. just let him know how much he means to you. when you ask him questions look into his eyes, if he looks left when he is thinking of an answer, he might be lying. people who are telling the truth tend to look to the right. (i saw that on a talk show once.) Good Luck!
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Not everyone that goes to college parties and cheats. I was engaged while I was in college and since I lived in the dorm, my fiance lived 4 hours away from me. While I did party a little, 95% of my time was focused on my studies. And I never cheated once, not even when I had offers.
Since you trust him and it seems to me that he's more focused on studies, I would just continue your relationship as it is.
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Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about all the crap that college kids do, and that you don't want him to cheat on you. But if he's telling the truth that he doesn't wanna be partying alot then you have nothing to worry about. i hope that helped a little.
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