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I think my boyfriend is starting to like my best friend, but hes going to ask me to marry him. What should i do?
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Anything but say 'yes'. You could say 'no'. you could say 'wait a bit'. Or you could confront your b/f now and clear the air.
Anything but just full speed ahead to disaster.
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Two people are not supposed to marry just for the sake of being married.
Two people should marry only if they both are totally in love with each other, your day is more special just having your partner around, it makes even the mundane tasks more special, you enjoy being in each others presence, upholding and support each other in your particular goals and needs and hobbies, you have total trust in each other and great communication,
the list goes on.
You may not be feeling totally sure of where you stand in importance to him. If you are not sure and feeling he could be attracted to someone else atthe same time, either he is polyamorous in nature and if you are monogamous, then it won't work. I do not know what makes you able to state he's going to marry you. Either you are engaged to be married, or you are not. If you are not, then he has made no commitment to you and if he is feeling he wants to date someone else, he needs to make that clear to you and break up. You can not change a person or force them to like you enough to stay in a relationship or marry you. It is doomed if you did get to the part of wearing a wedding ring.
So if you have good communication which is needed for a marriage, then start talking now. Let him know what you are feeling or think you are seeing. Obviously, he is not doing his job right in upholding you and communicating how you are the only one that he will ever want to bed, that you light up his world and he cant stand to be apart from you. etc...If he's not saying things that make you feel loved and special as if he considered you his princess and puts you up on a pedastal, then something is wrong. You have every right to know where you stand with him if he is acting like he wants to be with you forever. It's not supposed to be a secret. You should not have to be asking, it should be so plain to know from both what he tells you and how he treats you.
Are you sure you're with the right guy honey?
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If he's going to marry you then I doubt there are feelings for your best friend besides just friends. I wouldn't worry about it
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