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Okay well laast week or so I was with a friend and she took me out iwth 2 of her friends andways long story short we were drinking and I ended up sleeping with this guy...I completly regret it now and I knw it was wrong that's not why I'm here....what are teh statistics and stuff on pulling out. And if we did it twice is tehre a even greater preganancy chance? Also I have a boyfriend and I think I lov ehim and I've never been in love before and I want him to know so bad but I just can't bring myself to tell him cuase I don't want to loose him....any help would be so apreciated....thanx
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Tell your boyfriend. Better you tell him now than he find out later.
Get tested. Also get tested for STDs.
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You know you made a mistake so leave it at that. You feel guilty about it but don't tell your boyfriend to ease your guilt. It will only hurt him.
Pulling out is not a good form of birth control. I don't know the statistics but they are probably not good. Twice just doubles it.
If you used that method then you need to get checked for STDs. Go to local health department and get checked out, or family doctor.
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Sorry...I don't know the answer to the statistics on pulling out. But I do know that even if he pulled out there is still a VERY SMALL percentage of getting pregnant. The sperm can live exposed in the air for up to an hour. And there IS a greater chance of being pregnant, especially if you had sex with the guy twice. As for your second issue with telling your boyfriend, normally I would say 'don't tell him.' Because what he doesn't know won't hurt him. Then you said you really love him. If you were to tell him, he'd probably get very mad and maybe even not want to talk to you for a while. In that case you should give him space and time to think about what you told him. If you dont tell him, and he finds out later, he'd probably be even more mad then if you do tell him. He would feel like your entire relationship from when you thought you could be pregnant to the day he found out was a complete lie.
First I think you should find out for sure if you are pregnant or not bye buying a pregnancy test at any drugstore like CVS/pharmecy or Duane Reade. If you are pregnant then you should tell him right away. That way he doesnt find out by someone else later on. If it turns that you are not pregnant then don't tell him. But I think you should tell him that you cheated on him when you were drunk. If you don't than thats fine as long as he NEVER finds out. In order for that to happen make sure that whoever knows about the incident NEVER says anything.
Hope I helped! Lots of Luck :)
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About pregnancy, you should be worrying more about STDs. Some STDs, like clymydia and gonnorhoea can be easily cured if you do something about it quickly. HIV/AIDS canNOT. So go see a gynecologist. If you're pregnant you can get an abortion. If you've got an STD you have to do something QUICKLY before you get infected real bad.
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Just sit him down and tell him that you love him but with that said you need to tell him something and explain you were drunk and you weren't really thinking. Hopefully he'll understand.
Aunie
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HeY hUN! well to answer your question:
pulling out (a.k.a., withdrawal) is not the most reliable or forgiving form of contraception. and you said you had sex twice... thats even riskier... because re-inserting your penis after you've ejaculated (outside the vagina) is not safe either. Within the first few hours after ejaculation, there is usually some sperm left in the urethra. The amount left behind is nowhere near the amount of sperm in the typical ejaculate, but it still presents a risk.
Statistics:
Estimated failure rate for typical use (meaning you're not totally consistent) is around 20 percent. When practiced perfectly, some researchers estimate the failure rate to be around 5 percent. This means 5 to 20 women out of every 100 who use withdrawal as their contraceptive method get pregnant.
Boyfriend:
From my point of view... cheaters never win... i recently cheated on a boyfriend... :( and without me even telling him... he found out in 3 days! and the story was totally different! word spreads fast! so tell him... it may not be the easiest thing... and u may loose your man, but it will pay to be honest about it! your honesty could score you some points, because i'm sure he'd rather hear about it from you first... then 50 people at school!
good luck hUn! all the best! i hope i help! if you need more advice drop one in my bOx!
aLL mY LOve: aLeX
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Pulling out works sometimes, but most of the time, it's not really an effective way or avoiding pregnancy. Guys leak a little bit of semen (pre-cum) well before they actually get off. This little bit of sperm is all that's needed to get you pregnant. Before you panic, I'd wait until your period is due. If it doesn't come, then you need to get tested.
Also since it appears that you had unprotected sex, you need to get checked for STDs immediately. Since you say you know all the statistics, I assume you know that STDs are not just spread through semen, but also through body to body contact.
As for your boyfriend...Chances are he'll find out anyway. It'll be better if he hears it from you. The best thing you can do is come clean with your boyfriend and hope and pray he forgives you. I know that sounds hard but it's better for you to tell him, then someone else will tell them and they will probably have a little rumor mixed in with the truth and will make it sound several times worse.
Last but not least, talk to someone, a parent or trusted adult or go to your local health department or planned parenthood office to get advice on how to protect yourself from not only pregnancy but also STDs.
Good luck.
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For your first question I really don't know the answer, I'm sorry. If I do find it however, I'll edit my answer. As for the boyfriend question, do what you feel is best hun. What I think would be the best thing to do would be to tell him yourself. If you don't tell him, he'll just find out from someone else. You know how fast word gets around. I know he's going to be mad, because really, who wouldn't be? But I think he'll be less mad at you if you tell him yourself. So maybe one night you could sit him down and explain to him what you did. He'll either want to talk to you and work things out, or get out of the relationship. His thoughts on this are beyond your control, so wish for the best and tell him gently.
♥ Krissy
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wow don*t listen to the first people they seem like idiots. Anyway i tried to find the statistics but i cant. And about your boyfriend, sadly he*ll either find out from someone else or you*ll become completely stressed with guilt. I think that you should just come clean and tell him the complete truth, i mean maybe he*ll respect that you were honest and better to hear from you then other people! good luck hun n hope everything works out! <3 chelsea
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