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Odd Love But Still True
18/m
My next door neighbor is this beautiful, green eyed angel to me. We spend all our time together, late nights till 5 and 6 in the morning just cutting up and looking at the stars. We share everything in common, even the lil things we love each other for. Ive known her about 4 months now and we have gotten very close, romantic settings, kissing hugging etc. Now heres the punch line .. shes 24 and married and she has her own kid.
I mean ive raised kids all my life and this is no big deal to me but I dunno what to do .. leave her to her life or start a relationship when shes divorced
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Well if she's divorcing then i would think its okay.. if you dont have a problem with her having a kid and wouldnt mind being in this childs life i dont see the problem.. and her being 24 isnt a big deal your not illegal for her and age is just a number.. ask her what she wants.. then decide from there.. ♥ Dez
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if she truly wants to be with you, she'll leave her husband for you. but if this is just a little fun on the side she's having and refuses to divorce her husband, i'd say bye to her. you have to find out just how serious she is with you. for now though, i would stop seeing her until she gets everything sorted out. just remember, things happen and you can't help who you love.
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yeah hun as hard as it will be get out of that relationship.. she made a commitment with her husband and you*re gettng yourself rite in the middle of it. Also don*t forget she*s not just cheating on him but you too. I know it*s gonna be hard but the best thing for you, her, her husband, and her child is to leave the situation and look some place else, and maybe MAYBE when she*s ready (meaning if her n her husband divorce) you could go back to her.. but i don*t suggest this bc if she had an affair once most likely she*ll do it again no matter what she says. But good luck with the situation and keep your head up. <3 chelsea
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well if you really love her, you have to respect that she is with another man. yet if she is kissing you, they will def need to divorce. and once that happens, i say go for it.
♥ nicole
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wow that sucks. but if you truely love this girl, i think you should be willing to do ANYTHING for her. i mean it sounds like a pretty serious relationship. but make sure her ex-husband is stable with seeing his child and paying his child support. hopefully you and her child get along, because i know step-parents can get extremly frusterating if they dont get along. try enteracting with the kid, prooving to the mother that nothing will get in the way of your relationship and that your willing to do anything to be with her. hope i helped :)
<3 bailey
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The last thing you want is to be responsible for bringing pain and heartache into this woman's life. You seem to be rather mature and responsible, but it's always a mistake to be "the other man".
Right now, I'm sure you represent, to her, a beautiful fantasy of youth. When she's with you, she forgets that she's 6 years older than you and has adult responsibilities--including a child. Late, starlit nights and romantic settings have spun a beautiful poetic web around her.
The thing is, I doubt if you've seduced her as much as she's seduced herself. She sees, in you, her own youth and innocence.
Everyone wants to "get away", but it's dangerous to forsake your responsibilities and your life for a fantasy, however wonderful. You are her dream lover, but you can't enter her waking world.
As much as you feel you could be a part of that waking world, how well could she really integrate you into that life? You don't marry someone just because you're passionately romantically swept away by them--those marriages, ultimately, fail. A marriage is a partnership of business, trust, adoration and equals.
She may have married the wrong man. That's possible. But when you bring a child into the picture, that changes things. She should be focused on the welfare and care of her child, not living in fantasies of princess-like stature.
If you can't step out of the darkness and into her structured, adult, married life, then chances are you just don't belong there. This is more her fault than yours, it seems. Try to let her live her life and raise her child, and when she's really able to devote time to a different husband, pursue her then.
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That's a horrible punch line. It's sickening. Sorry for being brutally honest, but you need to realize she is married and her little child is looking up to her parents.
I suggest you move on. By having this relationship with her you are being unfair to everyone, including yourself, her, her husband, and her child!
Only one person deserves your love. Likewise for the 24 year old wife. If she has done this behind her husband's back, what makes you think she won't be able to do it to you? I know, sounds heartless, but just remember that once someone has done something bad they are always capable of doing it again.
You are only eighteen. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do you really want to break up a family? Even if she got divorced, are you really ready for marriage and a child? A child that isn't even yours? Think about others, not just your own feelings. Her husband is going to be CRUSHED. Put yourself in his shoes. Wouldn't you LOVE to kill the guy that your wife is cheating on you with? Her child is going to have SO much emotional damage. Do you really think they deserve that just because you like some older woman? That's absolutely horrible.
I can't make you do anything, but I do hope you do the right thing.
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Wow. It seems like you guys were meant for eachother and it seems like you guys both have a lot of love for eachother. But this is a serious problem. She is married. Just put yourself in her husbands place. He has no clue that this is happening. But he will find out somehow and either she will go with him and forget about you or go with you and her kids will have a more rough of a time. I am not trying to come down on you hard. I am just trying to help. Because right now you are not doing the right thing. I hope I helped.
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You've raised kids all your life?
Never mind.
You are having a romantic fling, both of you living in your own fantasy world. Which is grand except for the fact that is only a fantasy and there are alot of people that might get hurt.
Besides that, and the fact that what you are doing is imoral, the two of you are at very different places in life. This women is divided between you and her family, which means one of these two wont be getting the attention and support it needs.
Cut off contact untill a divorce happens, otherwise you are just the other guy and nothing more no matter what you would like to think.
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omg!! No way should you continue to date her! She made a commitment to her husband, she chose to have a child and get married to him, so why should You have to pay by keeping your love secret from everyone? And no offence, but you're a little young for her. You should find someone you're own age cuz there are tons of girls out there! And do you seriously want to date someone who lies to her own husband? Imagine if you were her husband and she was lying to you.....
well...good luck...
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Well if she is going to be divorced wait until then but if she is not then you should move on with your life.
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you shouldnt see her if shes married! especially if she has a kid! find someone else thats not so attached to someone else like that.
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