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hay, me n my boyfriend get along GREAT, and we both love eachother ALOT, and he always asks me to go places with him, and i always think of an excuse not to go anywhere with him because i dont feel comftorable(sp?) around him, i dont know if its because hes older then me, or like what, and im not shy around boys, we've been going out for 2 months and i havent even hugged him, the one and only time i did was at our school fair and we werent even going out then!, please help, i dont know what to do
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I'm going to tell you what I think...so please at least be open minded. Honestly, I don't think you can say you love each other. At least not until you feel comfortable around him. Remember that part of being in love is being comfortable with your lover! So you can't be in love if you're not comfortable with them. Of course you might love each other as in care for each other...but I think it may just be "friendly" love...not "romantic" love.
I think that's nice of him trying to go to places with you. But I think he probably is feeling disappointed you aren't going anywhere with him.
It could be that the age difference is scaring you. I don't blame you. It could also be you're afraid off showing affection or something (since you barely hug him). That's okay too! You've only been dating for two months. You don't HAVE to do anything! Everyone has a different speed when it comes to dating and we're just going to have to respect that. Or it could also be you like him so much you're afraid if you spend time with him he won't like you anymore. I don't know, could be anything...only you can know the truth.
So my point is...it's okay to be scared or reluctant. Just make sure you let him know what's going on in your mind so he doesn't feel left out or hurt. A healthy relationship requires for the both of you to talk about your feelings. Just give him a chance, and maybe take it slow. Go on a date with him. Then start going on more.
Remember that dating is about bonding with someone, gaining new experiences, and finding out what you need and want. If things don't work out, you move on and live life. You never have to be confined to one person if they are not the one for you. You are free to do what you want. Just be sure to give your boyfriend a chance before you do anything rash.
Good luck!
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how can you love him if you aren't even comfortable around him? i'm sorry, but after two months, i don't think that feeling is going to go away, unless you make it. if you like him a lot, try to figure out what's making you uncomfortable around him, and fix that problem. but other than that, you may just have to move on; you can't have a relationship if you aren't comfortable around the other person.
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It seems a little weird that you say you love him but you haven't even hugged him and you don't feel comfortable around him. I don't understand how this can be. If you really do get along with him, then hanging out shouldn't be a problem. If I were you, the next time I saw him I'd run up to him and give him a big hug! I dont know, maybe it'll make you more comfortable. Just try talking to him about things you both enjoy and stuff like that. Hope you can work it out!
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Okay, well first, if you two are going out then you are you shy around him!? I mean this is your boyfriend you should be able to feel comfortable around him....talk to him about anything....and the age should really matter, and if you love each other.If you two have been dating for 2 months, and you haven't even hugged once, well, then is that a confedence(sp?) issue. The way that you get over this is by feeling good about yourself. If you don't love yourself then you can't love someone else. And are you sure that you love him, I mean, the word love is a very storng(sp?) word.
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well maybe ur scared he might take advantage of you...so really ask yourself wouldnt you rather be with someone you enjoy and are comfortable around AND LOVE?
just a question.
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oh wow. ok you havent even hugged him? first off..you need to start going places with him. tell him you dont feel totally comfortable with him yet, so if you can please bring your best friend. having your friend there will help. so bring her && go out with your boyfriend..maybe like to an amusement park or something. not to the movies cause its too quiet there. just go somewhere where you two can talk and get to know eachother more. and give him a hug!! its just a hug. i hug guys who arent even my boyfriend!! your relationship wont go anywhere, if you dont hangout with him..or even hug him. your his girlfriend!!
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