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Long Lost Love
Here is my story:
I once dated a really great guy in college; I was a freshman in college @ 18 and he was a junior and 20. We attended the same college and lived in one dormitory but on different floors. Our relationship lasted for a year and a half and in that time he had asked me to marry him and I said yes. I can say that I am very mature for my age and had more of an adult outlook on life at 18 than most of the other teenagers. After my first year of attending that school I left to attend a less expensive college and our relationship went on for another six months. After these six months we broke up. He was a born-again Christian and his explanation to me of our break up was that that is what God had wanted him to do. That he wasn’t ready for a relationship yet and that he wants to wait and see if our relationship was God’s will. I loved him very much and being a patient person that I am I allowed him some time to think about things and etc. By the way, I need to mention that my ex and I never slept together. We broke up…. After about a month or two, I came to see him in his dorm room and found out that he has been sort of seeing someone else during the time that he was supposed to sort things out. I didn’t make a scene, I truly genuinely loved him and I decided to try and win him back by spending more time with him, tried to throw some romanticism back into our relationship. None of it worked. I couldn’t do anything to fix it. Then, I found out that the girl he started dating after me was in a theater production with him. They both were acting in a play together and that’s when they “fell in love”. They started dating. I was still in love with him and could not believe that he that easily left me. I would have given/done anything for him.
But, I moved on with my life. I started going out with my girlfriends a lot more but I wasn’t looking for anyone special to date, but I found him. My, now, fiancée. We’ve been together for 3.5 years and are happy with plans to marry next spring. All throughout these 3.5 years I have been keeping in touch with my ex, but without any kind of monkey business. He was together with his gf and I was with my bf. My ex had many problems in his relationship and many times told me about it. He always told me how good of a gf I was to him, etc. I knew that I loved him when we were together and was very good to him and all throughout these 3 or so years I thought about him and our relationship, and how I regretted ever breaking up. But there wasn’t anything that I could do, or he could do so I bottled up my feelings for him and threw the bottle away.
NOW, a mutual friend of ours had recently had a wedding and both me and my ex were invited to it. My fiancée couldn’t go because he was working. So, I picked my ex up at the airport, we go to the wedding and to make a long story short we ended up kissing. It wasn’t a make out session but a considerable kiss, not a peck on the lips, there was some tongue action. We both leaned in for it, no one was forcing anything on. We had a little to drink but not completely sober. I can’t explain why the kiss happened, maybe it was just the memories, I still have to figure this out, but I wrote out an email about our kiss to his now, kind of ex gf. He says that they are having problems but there is still some kind of feelings left between them. He says that he would love to be with her but he cannot because of some difficult reasons he can’t tell me about. What do you guys think, was it completely cruel that I wrote her telling her about our kiss?
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i think it was a good thing you told her about the kiss because don't you think if his girlfriend n ur fiancee kissed you would wanna know about it? i know i sure would..well i really think that u guys are still in love well whatever happends i wish you the best ♥
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I don't think I would have done it myself. He may be mad when he finds out. Your boyfriend may be mad if she retaliates by telling him. I don't think it is something that you can really apologize for or anything since it was truth.
I think it was probably cruel. Nothing can be done about it now though. You may want to steer clear of the whole mess for now. Hopefully they will patch it up and work things out. I have to wonder if you were mean to her because you still have feelings for your ex.? Might want to examine that before you marry someone else. :)
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personally i believe that if you truely love someone you cant kiss someone else no matter what, but the person you need to tell about the kiss isnt her, your fiancee deserves to know, if there is any doubt with him you shouldnt be getting married because the last thing you want is a divorce. By telling her about this kiss youve risked alot, your ex could get mad and tell your fiancee or something awful. Basically in the end you need to tell your fiancee and try to let your ex go becuase if you dont it could mess up this and possible future relationships up if you dont stay with your fiancee just think about the future, not the past
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