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i am just really hard on myself for not being exactly how i wanna be. i want to be more popular, and a beauty. everyone tells me i am beutiful and i know i am (not to be conceited) but i wish people at school could see it. (or atleast the popular people cuz geeks have crushes on me). just what are some tips to boost my confidence and be everything i wanna be! help!
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I can relate to how you feel because I always feel like I'm not skinny or pretty enough. Everyone tells me I am though. My advice is to just be happy with yourself. I know this sounds corny but its true. You need to see yourself in a new lense. There are people in way worse situations than you- people who are sick, dying, hurt. Just thinking of that makes me feel alot more confident and luckier about myself and it should help you too.
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boy oh boy, everybody in the world is obsessed with being popular aren't they?
it's ok, it's a phase everyone goes through.
when i was in middle school i felt exactly the way you're feeling now. i never thought i was super-model gorgeous, but i never felt that i was completley worthless and it would make me really mad to see all these other girls, who i knew were very mean and undeserving, getting really great boys. these girls were usually popular, and these guys, who i thought were the greatest were also popular. i wasted so many years of my life going after the "popular" guys just because they were cute. but really, they weren't very nice. they never made me feel special or good about myself and they weren't even the nicest of people.
i think right now you need to be more open-minded. don't try so hard and waste all your time on getting the "popular" boys to notice you. these geeky boys that like you, they may not be that bad. i mean, let's face it, nobody wants to go out with some gross, weird kid. but maybe if you got to know some of them, you might find that they're really fun and nice people and they'll make you feel good about yourself which will raise your self-esteem.
and don't worry, everybody's a bit hard on themselves. we all try to live up to standards that are set for us like how we should look, and who we should date, etc...
if you can get past these trivial things and just be happy with yourself and embrace anything you find negative instead of beating it down, you'll be golden!
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aw, ok so personally, i really dont like those realllyy "popular" people or people who just live there life trying to be popular. its actually pretty shallow if you think about it cause all you care about is what people think of you. theres more to life than that, and i guess thats just growing up. i learned this the hard way cuz i used to want to be popular, and ive witnessed firsthand people who are diehard trying to be popular, and all that happens is you lose all your true friends that ACTUALLY care about you. I figured out that being true to yourself gets you more friends than anything. dont try hard b/c people weed out the fakes... in a snap.
good luck and i hope i explained this alright. i'm not the best at it --x0x
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It's the same with me and my school i can totaly relate. and now my friends don't even talk to me i mean i am completely alone. Any ways back to your problem.lol! You don't need to be popular to be pretty. Your pretty and you know it so FLAUNT your STUFF girl! when you walk move your hips a little don't be like a stick (be proud of your butt!). In class don't slouch, thats just a nasty bad habit , but don't be too straight b/c then you'll look like a total loser. Wear just the right amount of make up not too much but no too little. Wear clothes that fit your form, but not too tight or else they'll make you look fat. I hope I helped!!
GOOD LUCK!!
~Kiwi~
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I know about this problem. I'll tell you this: Most popular people are shallow. No offense. They are ignoring you. On purpose, am I right? Do you really want to be with them? I'm not telling you to be mean to them, but don't buy your way to popularity like they do. Don't think they're cool from what they do to other people. It sounds like you are the kind of person who would feel like a fake if she got into the popular world. Ask yourself: What is popularity?
Having lots of friends? Being "cool"? That's about all there is to it. And even those are a paper wall. I suspect that you have a good, strong circle of friends. Stick with them.
Also, maybe the 'popular ppl' are AFRAID of your beauty. They think that if you become popular, you will threaten their social status. Just a thought.
Sorry it was so long!
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Stop giving a shyt about what the popular kids think - they don't really even care about anybody except themselves anyway most of the time. Besides, geeks make better lovers, won't use you just for what they want, and will make more money. Find a guy who you think is attractive, or who you think could be attractive with less than surgery, and who has a good personality.
As far as for yourself, be yourself. The only people who want someone who is putting on an act are the people who just want to use you.
My biggest problem is self-image, too. What helped me was to, in spite of my self-consciousness, just go have fun, whatever that meant (keeping to my morals, of course). "Dance like nobody's watching," 'cause otherwise you'll only ever watch.
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