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fooling around with a friend.
ok...my best guy friend's name is ryan. his and my friends are/were like determined to get us two to hook up. i thought i could do it since we were already close and everything...but when i actually got into the situation, neither of us could like...bring ourselves to do it.
my question is: have you ever been in a similar situation? and if so, what did you do? and what happened as a result.
thanx in advance.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I have a friend, and we are the same way. Our parents knew eachother and we grew up together. As we got older we started kissing alot and messing around. Then we just stopped talking to eachother. Then like 3 years ago we started again (partly thanx to the fact that she grew very big boobs) but anyway, I feel we are declining again. So my advice is dont mess up a good thing, keep it friendly.
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don't do it.
you will regret it.
if you can bring yourself to do it...then forget all the peer pressure and just go on being friends.
hope i helped.
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Okay, so this is REALLY confusing. To be honest, I think I'm uncleaR on what youR question is EXACTLY. By "hooking up", do you mean being sexually intimate?? I'm assuming you do. OOORRRRR by "hooking up" could you mean just getting togetheR as a couple???
EitheR way.. I can speak fRom expeRience heRe:
"FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" is when two people whom aRe *NOT* cuRRently in a Relationship with one anotheR engage in sexual activities on a RegulaR basis.
NOW.. if BOTH paRtneRs feel nothing moRe than fRiendship foR the otheR peRson, theRe shouldn't be much of a pRoblem with this situation. HOWEVER, it is when ONE paRtneR staRts to develops feelings foR the otheR due to the message that sexual activities would NORMALLY send that it becomes messy and huRtful, ya know?? So to avoid this situation.. avoid "fRiends with benefits" Relationships.
*I HAVE* been in a "fRiends with benefits" Relationship befoRe... and judging on what I just said.. WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENED???? Yes, I fell foR the guy. I completely LOVED the attention and feelingS I got fRom him. Then, I began to cRave moRe. It got to the point wheRe I was unshoRe if it was **HIM** I wanted oR if it was just 'THAT' kind of attention that I just so happened to NOT be getting anywheRe else at the time. Luckily foR me.. he staRt felt jsut as I did about it all [but it does NOT always woRk out that way!!]. We weRe in the midst of "taking ouR Relationship to the next level" when I discoveRed I was moving acRoss countRy. FRom then on, we just soRt of dRopped it all, and it was neveR bRought up again. Of couRse what you MUST Realize heRe is that he and I engaged in those acts, because he and I **BOTH** deeply wanted to... NOT BECAUSE A GROUP OF FRIENDS WERE CHEERING US ON AND TELLING US TO!!!!!
Bottom line.. you CAN NOT let otheR people tell you what you CAN and CAN NOT do. Especially youR fRiends who aRe DEFINITELY NOT youR keepeR and hold absolutely NOT authoRity oveR you! It is YOUR body.. theRefoRe YOUR decision - NO ONE ELSES!!!! You simply CAN NOT live youR life foR someone else, so if EITHER of you aRe even the SLIGHTEST BIT unshoRe on whetheR you want to go thRough with this oR not... DON'T GO THROUGH WITH IT!!!!!! Deciding to be sexual active is SERIOUS decision; a decision with many possible consequences [STD's, pRegnancy]. DO NOT Risk this unless you'Re Ready to face up to them. Just please... be wise.. and use youR head about this!!! IT'S ***NOT*** YOUR FRIENDS DECISION TO MAKE!!!!!!
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K. Well one of my greatest guy friend and i always hang out together. People thought we would make a cute couple and that they thought we were dating. But we dont like each other like that. Maybe later we might but now, we dont. We are too good of friends to have a relationship like that. Were more "buddy buddy" then boyfriend girlfriend.
If you cant bring yourself to do it then dont! I'm sure it would be much better if you two were friends. Your friends and his shouldnt be in your buisness of trying to hook you two up. If you want to date him then its both of yours decision. I hope i helped! Good Luck!
~Brina~
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I'm not really sure what the particular situation is.. so I'll just give you a general type answer...
Hooking up with your best friends would not be the advice I would give to you... for usually, something MIGHT happen, and it would ruin your friendship.
But, be completely honest with the guy that you want to hook up with, and I'm sure he's just as confused as you, so it will really be help to him, because he probably isn't sure what to do either.
GOODLUCK LOVELY!
Let me know how everything works out! :)
If you have any more questions or need follow up advice, please by all means feel free to ask me.
<3AMY.
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Ok...NO i HAVEN'T EVER BEEN IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS, BUT MY FRIEND HAS. If you don't feel comfortable and neither does he, then don't do it. wait tuntil you are both comfortable enough to share you feelings!
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...You mean get together as in physically or emotionally?
"Fooling around with a friend" - implies it may be sexual... But, well, yeah, its just really unclear.
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