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help plez
ok well sorry if this is to long. well my parents are divorced but its not a big deal they been divorced since i was about 3 so i dont mind that. my dad lives in nj and i live with my mom and sis in ny. me and my dad arent very close but i would usually go down there when ever i had vacation off from skool. summer vacations almost here and i have to deside wheather or not to go, now heres where it gets complicated the only reason why im having trouble desideing is becaouse my dad hasnt payed child support since the begining of the years so about six months, my has tryed everything she even took him to court, he still hasnt payed the money. me my mom and sis depend on that money when it comes, $200 dolars a week, my mom works but doesnt make enough money and where very behind on our bills, so i guess what i need to know is whta would u do in my position?. would you continue to talk to ur father even if he doesnt help support you?
thanx ill give 5s
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Hello there,
Okay then I have a question for you: has anybody asked your dad why he isn't paying child support?
Is it possible that he's lost his job?
Has he been laid off?
Did he have to take a demotion at work?
What I read in the answers to your question so far is basically that you should "demand" money from your father who has faithfully paid for 12 years, and has only recently had trouble paying.
There is no mystery here, if your mother took him to court then she knows why he isn't paying.
If he had the means to pay, the court would take it directly out of his paycheck and give it to your mother.
If you love your dad, ask him what the problem is. He probably already feels terrible about it and his little girl demanding money from him or laying a guilt trip on him when he is already doing his level best (if that is the case) could drive him to suicide or something drastic like that.
Have a heart, at least find out what the real issue is before you pass judgment.
I would absolutely go to spend the time with your dad, if for no other reason than to find out what the truth is.
If he suddenly turned into a deadbeat after all these years, then lay the guilt trip on him and lay it on thick.
I hope you get this all straightened out with as few hurt feelings as possible.
DangerNerd.
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I definitely understand what you're going through. I am not close with my father at all either. You have to do what you feel most comfortable with. If it was my choice, I wouldn't talk to my father at all because I don't miss having him around. If you want to change what you're going through, maybe you should visit him. Tell him your situation and ask him if he could please help out a little bit more. I wish you the best! Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen
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OMG! we have SO much in common.
1)my parents are divorced, so i feel ya!
2)they broke up when i was 2 months old(i win)
3)my dad lives in NY right outside of NJ!
but one thing we don't have in common is this paying thing.that is awful what he is doing to you.i wouldn't go seehim at all! He doesn't sound like a good father and he probably doesn't deserve to have u as a daughter if he doesn't help you! He probably thinks that he can not pay and still see you, but he shouldn't be able to. If he loved you, he would help you. That's harsh. He does love you, so if you don't see him, it will probably show him that he can't have you if he doesn't pay for you. he'll miss you and come to his sences! trust me! i hope this all works out! i hop i helped!
lots o love
-*tootsiepop*
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i think you should do what clownybear41191 said to do. go over and talk to him no matter what the hell he says convince him to pay for child support. hope this helps and good luck
*~Stephanie~*
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