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Was taking a break from my guy the right thing to do?
I met this guy on a Friday and got his number on Saturday. We talked nonstop on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday and he asked me out on Wednesday. Well, we went out for six days before I asked him if he thought we rushed into things and of course he said yes and I asked him if he would like to take a break so we could actually get to know each other and he said no, but I pushed it and now we are on a "break" and I feel really bad like I've hurt him. He hasn't talked to me at all. I feel really bad, but I know that I rushed into it. Did I do the right thing by taking the break? And do you think he's mad at me? I would put more details about him for the past two days, but he hasn't said anything to me so I can't.
14/f, um...the guy is 15/m
Thanks so much!
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YES! you did the perfect thing. In a relationship it takes two ppl to work it out and if one thinks that it was pushed to much then of course you did the right thing. Now the question is is he mad at u? If he is then that is his own fault becuse he loves you and wants to be with you he would want to wait. REMEMBER it takes two for a relationship to work adn if hes mad at you because you did the right thing then that just proves he really didnt want ot be with you. HOPE I HELPED!!!!
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well obviously you werent comfortable with the speed things were goin it so yes i think you did the right thing. but try talking to him. explain that your still interested and were just worried about the fact that you rush and were scared it might effect the state of your relationship. if hes a reasonable person then im sure he will understand. good luck!
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Hmm. I think you did the right thing since you wanted to get to know him better. You need to make the effort now to go talk to him since he doesn't seem to be helping with that part any. He may have thought you just used the break idea to break up with him permanently. Guys brains are wired differently than ours. If that is the case he isn't going to approach you again. You will have to do it if you want to get to know him better. :)
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You did the right thing. You guys don't even know each other that long. If he agreed you guys were rushing into things, he has no good reason to be mad at you for taking a break.
Honestly, he is being a bad boyfriend. A good boyfriend should always back off when the girlfriend is feeling pressured. Although his feelings hurt, he probably doesn't realize that yours matter too. It would probably be disappointing to go out with someone and have them ask you to take a break, but it's nothing big. He should understand that. I think he's just making things more dramatic than they should be. It's just a simple break because you guys barely know each other. Nothing big.
You need to talk to him about this. If he understands why you did what you did, he's boyfriend material and you should spend more time with him to get to know him even better. If he just makes a big scene and is still all mad at you, you should drop him like a hot potater. lol. Dating is about experiencing new things, trying things out, bonding with someone, and finding out what you need and want in a relationship. If it doesn't work out, you move on and live life. Good luck!
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go on a date so you can get to know him ... and if you end up liking him kiss him =]
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No, you didn't do the wrong thing. You thought it was going to fast and you stopped it. Don't feel bad about voicing your opinion. He should respect you, and if he doesn't respect that decision he's not good boyfriend material.
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If you felt like things were too rushed then you did the right thing! Get to know him first. I know you are worried that he is hurt but you have to think about yourself too!! Just try talking to him about it, if he doesnt answer his phone or something then you should leave a message explaining yourself so atleast he knows that you cared! Hope I helped!!
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