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Should I try this again?
Four years ago I dated a really cool guy, he was all over me calling and going out for 4 months, then he just didn't show up for dinner one nite and we only spoke once briefly after that, he said he didn't need anyone worried about him. (He's a serious workaholic) but over the years i've run into him at a couple parties of mutual friends and just two weeks ago we ended up hanging out and i've been seeing him again since last, last sunday. He's being a doll and has picked up right where we left off! I'm pretty sure that, that is just his style - dates for 4-6 months then it's adios. I'm having fun, but trying to keep a step back, because it's inevitable that the same thing is going to happen. Do I just have fun for however long it lasts?
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Bring up "the event." It doesn't have to be serious, but make it in person. He may just be afraid of commitment. Was there something specific that you may have said/done last time to scare him away (broguht up mariage, kids etc)? If he is vauge or wants to "keep the past where it belongs" explain that you were only concerned becuase you like him (at that point it is your risk on weather or not you want to stick around for six months. If you do then make it fun and not a heavy commitment so you don't get too attached to somone who might run away). However, his reaction should tell you enough about weather he is afraid of commitment or is just out to have a good time.
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Well then if you really like him than take advantage and keep datin him and ALWAYS keep your step back because if he disappears then im more than positive he has someone on the side so dont get left behind :)enjoy it while it lasts ! good luck :)
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You're having fun. So what? There is nothing wrong with that. Besides, that's what he's doing too, isn't it? Having fun?
Haha! Got you there, didn't I? :) I think that the reason you are asking, is maybe because you are feeling a little guilty. Like you are using him or something. You're not. You're just two adults...having fun together. It's all right. You would only be using him if you were the only one having fun and he was clearly interested in something more.
And...probably...he's not. I have a theory. If a man stands you up once, he'll do it again. So...I commend thee for keeping him at arms length. Very wise dearie ;)
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Honestly i think you should but jus stay causios rmembering what happened in the past. and who knows people change over time. But you'll never know unless you give it antother chance
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DO what you want. Its not our life to screw up.
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If you do that, you need to realize that he is going to do the same thing in 4months. Don't set yourself up to get hurt. As long as you understand that and are prepared I don't see why you can't enjoy yourself!
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