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REALLY CONFUSED
I have been living with my aunt carla for 5 years now, and about 2-3 months ago her 2 older boys moved out.. when they did me and my aunt got along really good , but about a month ago both of them moved back.. now i always fight w/ her and i cant stand it.. she gets stressed over my 2 cousins that moved back and expects me to do everything in the house because 'the boys are lazy ' but i always say ' they live here, just like i do , they should also do stuff to help out ' and my aunt was like they both work.. but now one of my cousins quit his job and all he does is put my aunt in a bad mood & so that makes her always mad @ me ! ne ways.. my aunt carla wants me to move in with my aunt barbara.. i love my aunt barbara, and get along with her so much better but she doesnt seem like shes in a good finanical place right now... another reason why i dont like it where i live is that if i wana go out in my back yard and tan one of my cousins will come out and say im fat and all this other stuff, like im a whore ! it brings me down alot, even though it shouldnt.. but if i lived with my other aunt i wouldnt have that problem.. i love my aunt carla, but i cant stand living with her sons any more.. any advice ?
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Try talking to her and I mean really talking to her. Tell her that's it's bothering you and making you sad. But do NOT tell her you are mad at her, because that will make her possibly angry too. I understand that it is hard to chose between both of your aunts, but if you talk to your Aunt Carla then you might see that moving in with your Aunt Babara is probably the best thing to do right now. Even though you wont live with her it doesnt mean you have to stop being her niece.
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if you're that unhappy there then i think that you should move in with your other aunt, ask her if she'd like you to get a job to help out with the money and that way you'll be happy and she'll have help
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I suggest that you do two things here. First of all, you need to talk to your Aunt Carla when her sons aren't around. Let her know that you enjoyed the time that you and her have spent together, and that you really appreciate everything that she has done for you, but you have noticed that she has been treating you differently since her sons have moved back in the house. Let her know that you don't mind helping around the house and doing your share, but you don't think it fair that you have to pick up her sons slack too. In all honesty, you need to be honest with your aunt and let her know how you feel. Tell her about the comments her son has been giving you and how you see the situation.
The second thing I suggest you do is talk to your Aunt Barbara. Since you have a relationship with her also, and you don't see a negative besides her financial situation, then this might be the better option for your living situation. There is no need for you to place yourself in an unnecessary stressful living situation if you can get out of it. Let your Aunt Barbara know what is going on also, and go from there.
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If Aunt Barbara wants you to move in with her then go for it. She knows weather or not she can finacially do it. Don't worry over adult problems. Go where you'll be happiest! :)
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Her sons are what's bothering you, so you should probably just try and get out the house more often. See if it works!
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GEt a job lol.. Well talk to your aunt and dont let her win.. fight bacckk!! Tell her that its not only not fair.. you have a life and tell her everythingg.. if she doesnt do anything about it ask your other aunt if you can move in with her.
Hope i helped
x♥x♥ Michelle
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