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My friends just dumped me. For. Good. I'm kinda shy, and have this big deal about jumping into a group. I've been sitting alone at lunch, but there's this group I really want to get into. I have two friends in it. Not like close friends, but friends nonetheless. And the guy I like is in this group. But the group is kinda out there. Pretty much all they wear is black, and they listen to music that I've never even heard of. I've heard of some of it..but not enough to impress anyone. I want to get into this group, but I don't want to change myself for them. How do I do that!?
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Just ask the one that you're closest friends with if you can join them in lunch the next day because you're having a fight with your friends or something. Then greet everyone and be nice to them and give them a reason to want you to keep sitting there. Then everything will work out perfectly. :)
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It's good that you don't want to change yourself. I've got to say, that's an excellent state of mind to have right now.
That being said, just try and talk to them. Just because you don't listen to the same music doesn't mean you don't have other common interests. Talk about movies, your teachers, books, sports, anything. I'm SURE you can find something else that you have in common with them :)
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-Laura (17-f)
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Here's what I think you should do.If your friends,so called friends,dumped you,you should forget about them.I understand that big deal of yours because I'm like that too.You need to decide what you want.If I were you,I'd ask those two friends to get me into the group.You don't have to be in it forever! You can just see what it's like,no one is going to force you to stay.While you're at it,get close to the guy you like.Ask him about his interests,strike up a conversation here and there,etc.Don't change yourself for anyone,ok?Just be yourself.People should like you for who you are,not for who you pretend to be.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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