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ADD
Please help me! I'm a 13-year-old girl in eighth grade and I have moved 2 times. I've been attending my new school for 9 months and I have only one friend. It's not that I'm not nice or that I don't want friends - I just can't seem to make them. When I meet a nice person and I talk to them, I can't think of anything to say and we just don't become friends. Everyone at school ignores and neglects me and I sit in a corner and don't talk to anyone. Do I have ADD? Help! I'm kind of...hopelessly miserable!
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First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
-Laura (17-f)
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Being shy and having ADD are 2 completely different things.
You're shy and that's what it's preventing you from continuing a conversation with people.
ADD is Attention Defecit Disorder. It affects your attention span and you're constantly switching your concentration.
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No, you don't have ADD. You're shy! Lots of teens have that problem. The best way to develop friendships is to join a club or activity. That way, you meet people with similar interests and soon the you'll start to make friends naturally, without really having to try because you'll be around people you have things in common with. So think of things you like to do (acting, music, math, reading, whatever it is) and then find a school club or even something in your community to join. Then just try to have fun and don't try too hard to make people your friends. That will happen on its own. People are attracted to people who seem happy and seem like they are enjoying life. You'll be fine. You're not weird, I promise you. You're just trying to find a way to fit in somewhere and you're not sure how to do it. Totally normal! Start finding some things you like to do and then do them. The rest will come naturally!
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Cheer up chickity! hmm well maybe that one friend of yours could introduce you to some of her friends. Talk to her about it. She is your friend, you should be able to talk to her about how your feeling. I'm sure if she knew you were sad inside, she'd love to help you out!
Maybe to get to know some people, host a slumber party at your house! :)
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