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BestFriend
My bestfriend(15) , this guy(15), and I(14) all go to that same church. Now my bestfriend and this guy are going out and their parents dont know about itand are completely against them being friends. There hole relation ship is based on rebelion and she realizes it but says she doesnt care at least not right now. He has hurt her a couple of times and she still refuses to see it. She won't listen to any of her friends including me. What the heck am i supposed to do, just sit back and watch???
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Ok well you should know that I always don't have the best advice so I got some OTHER people to help me with this one:
**Here's one way (if you're feeling really mean though): You could tell her mom. That would put an end to it if you feel that strongly about it.
~that could be a way to end ur friendship though so... yea not good
**I say tel someone about it her parents your parents, ANYONE RESPONSIBLE! Or talk to him and ask him if he relizes that he hurts her, cuase he might notice that it's wrong to do. But i really think that you should talk to your parents about this first and then see what they sa about it and do what they say.
**Ugh, that sucks. You are in the same situation as I was a few months ago. Just try telling her. Chances are, she won't listen to you. She will just have to learn the hard way. There is nothing else you really can do. Sorry.
**Pray. I mean there is nothing you can do when you have made your point and she isn't listening. She will feel stupid later when she finally breaks it off with him. I promise you, I have done it before as a teenager and a 20 year old. People in love are truly blind.
**that's all you can do, she'll be blind to it and he'll hurt her some more and there's nothing that anyone can do about it, and it's not because she can't see what he's doing, it's because she doesn't want to see it. women can be very blind when it comes to the guy she's dating
**Well, you're friend has her own life, granted at 15 (the teenage years) folks get more egocentric (only seeing the world from their point of view, kinda like toddlers) and well...the more you say she shouldnt do something, the more likely she is to do it. So quit feeling like its your responsibility to "save" her from herself...she will have to learn for herself...thats what life is about :o)
**It'll really be painful but as a true bestfriend. Talk to your bestfriend about it and say that you're only hurting yourself. Try to make her understand but if she doesn't listen no matter how you try to explain to her then just let it go. At least you tried to help her but she didn't listen
ok well hopefully at least one of my friends' advice will help!
~mags~
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