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Step-Dad & Dad
ok... I've been having some family issues lately... like my dad & I are not gettting along, & I cannot stand my step-dad, I can barley even look @ him cos hes the reason my parents split... and my dad has 2 otehr daughers, Erin: 26 & Stacy: 32, and I'm 14, and I want to live with my mom... but I can't hurt my dad like my sisters did, they moved in with there mom, & I don't wanna hurt my dad... & then I can't stand my step-dad... I wish for my mom to divorece him... but I feel like such a bad person... & I think I am a bad person for feeling this way & I feel really bad... and I don't know what to do... and another thing thats holding me back is that my grandmother on my dad's side is 80 & shes the person who raised me... and I'm not shure if I can leave them... & my parents live only a city or 2 away from eachother, so its not that far, & same with my grandmother...
but just what should I do...?
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Well, for starters I don't think it's fair to put the entire blame for your parents break up on your step dad. You might not like him but, he's not the only one to blame.
Kid's and parent's go through spells of not getting along. I know it doesn't help but it usually passes. I think you should stick it out a little longer where you are. Try to accept your extended family members with an open mind, and do your best to get along. It will make it so much easier for you.
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I think you and your dad are just having some normal issues that come with the age. Teenagers and parents. Even if your parents were together, you could still be having these issues. Now the issues with the step dad. Those are different, like you said, you hate him because he came between your parents, and I don't blame you. And while you may want to live with your mom, you have no idea what it will be like to live with him and you may REALLY HATE IT< REAL FAST, and look back and realize that the problems you had with your dad are nothing compared to the problems you can have with you step dad. And when they do come, and they will, whose side will your mom be on. Yours or his. I think if it is OK where you are, you should stay. The most important thing you have to do right now is grow up and mature and become smart and independent. And then try not to make the same mistakes that they made. So you need to stay in the place that will help you do that. Maybe you can tell your dad that you love him but sometimes you feel like you need break from him. Then ask him if he feels like that sometimes too, and ask him what he thinks the two of you could do about it. And if you haven't told him yet, tell him that you hate that that guy broke up his marriage and your family. (and you have a right to feel that way, you did not ask for it, afterall, you expected to grow up in an intact family. As far as I am concerned both your parents owe you and should be real careful to think about you first and not themselves and their own needs.
HOpe this helps
Michele
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stay with daddy until your mom gets rid of the ass. explain to your dad in detail why you want to move
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