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!*AfRaId To GeT iNvOlVeD*! PLEASE HeLp!
ok...one of my BEST friends is very flirty! I'm not sure why...but she is! It seems like all she wants to do is flirt and be ually active with guys! I havn't been hanging out with her as much because of this...If she happens to get pregnant or any type of thing, I don't want to be apart of it! She always wonders why I don't hang out with her as much and I tell her...but she always denies doing the things she does. How can i help her realize that i don't want her getting hurt and hang out with her more...WITHOUT her getting upset with me?!?!?!??!?!
Thanks a bunch!
-*Marissa*-
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Well, your probably in high school... So this whole flirting thing isnt a big deal. Mabye you should talk to her about it if she was married, but otherwise leave her alone and let her have fun.
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tell her
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dear Marissa you could put a mini video camera and attach it to your shirt and like hang out with her and then after about 2 hours take her to your house and watch the video clip thingy and mabe she will realize it worked on one of my friends so mabe it will work on her. hope i helped!!!!
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One of these days she's gonna get a big shock, probably in the form of a pregnancy or an STD. Then she'll probably stop it.
For now, tell her that you will always be there to support her, especially if things go wrong and she does get pregnant or whatever, but you don't like who she's become and you miss the old her. Tell her that you don't want a reputation like the one she's getting (that might also help her to realise what people are beginning to think of her), so for now you're steering clear unless she changes. Tell her how much you miss doing stuff together (all the stuff you used to do) like shopping, or running, or whatever the hell you two used to do as your 'best friend thing', but that you'd rather not know her at all (or not hang around with her) and miss out on all that great stuff than hang around with her now she's changed so much/when she's being so flirty (if she's always been like that). Hopefully it will then hit home with her how flirty she's being.
There's a couple of ideas, hope they helped...
Oh, and you're totally right for not hanging around her so much. The thing is, even if she hasn't changed, you probably made friends with the non-flirty girl (because she wouldn't flirt with you) and now you're seeing the other side of her. Maybe it's who she is and she can't change...if that's the case, you've just got to accept that you misjudged her character and move on. Stay friends with her but cool it down to that, don't be hanging around with her all the time, because you're right - you'll egt the same reputation.
And don't tell her this over IM - things can be so eaisly misinterpreted online.
Remember that she could just be insecure and that's why she's flirting. Tell her that she's beautiful so why should she have to beg for the guys attention when they give it her already?
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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You can be her friend and hang out with her without condoning her behavior. So long as you aren't acting that way.
If you really no longer want to be her friend then her feelings really shouldn't matter. Just tell her you no longer want to be friends and don't talk to her anymore.
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well flat out go off on her! and next time she asks why you don't hang out with her say "CUZ UR A HOE AND I DONT LIKE HANGING OUT WITH HOES!" LOL J/k! UMM TELL HER WHAT YOU FEEL AND PUT SOME ATTITUDE IN IT! give me some feedback!
~BeThAnY mArIe
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