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school friends
SO here's my problem. I am a freshman in high school and so far its been ok. i have friends that went to my old school with me at high school, but those are my only friends. I haven't really made any friends that i hang out with on the weekends and stuff from my new high school. i want to make more friends from my high school but i am sort of shy when it comes to that sort of thing. it seems like for everyone else its really easy to make friends, but i just can't seem to go up to some random person and have a conversation with them. i feel like i am missing out on high school! what advice can u give me to help make more friends?
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You aren't the only one that finds it difficult to make friends, so don't think that for everyone else it's really easy. I know a lot of people that wonder how to be more friendly and outgoing when they are shy. The truth is, a lot of (not all, but many) shy people don't even HAVE friends. Not just because they are hard to make, but they can also be hard to keep. I remember an Amigos retreat last year being all about Friendship. (If you went to St. Joan and were in Amigos, you will know what I'm talking about.) There was a list of things to do in order to maintain a friendship. This sounds stupid, and at the time I thought it was rather silly, but I have grown to appreciate all those activities we did, for a mulititude of reasons. Anyway, the main thing was communication. Being shy isn't a bad thing, but you need to talk, because friends share problems, hang out, and learn more about each other, which you can't do if you are too shy. Obviously since you still have friends, you are pretty good at this. Just apply it to making new friends. Try hanging out with one of your old friends while they are hanging out with their new friends. Make new friends through old friends! Get it? Just act yourself around new people. It'll take some time but I'm sure it'll all work out. Also, ask your current friends how they made new friends. I'm sure they can help you even more than me, considering I don't know who this is. Hope I helped!
~Meags
p.s. One last thing: now go and count the number of times I have said the words "friend" or "friends" in this answer. It has to be over 20, whoops...
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