Hello there.
Okay, well firstly I'm very annoyed that I didn't use a comma after my "Hello", but I don't think it looks right, so I'm not putting one in... Secondly, this is what my problem is. I have a hella lot of inner conflicts with myself, and I often speak to myself.
I don't consider speaking to yourself an actual problem, because it's rather normal, just most people deny it as it makes them look "weird", I personally don't care. But I am annoyed at the fact that I argue with myself a hella lot, I get annoyed at the slightest things and I try to purposely contradict myself when I'm bored to make my life seem more amusing and cause problems.
I'm turning my life into a soap opera for the fun of it, and when a real problem does arise, I flip it over, turn it inside out and make it all the more worse.
I *could* figure this one out myself, but I'd probably give myself the wrong solution just so I have another problem that I can make a larger problem out of, then I'll contradict the whole thing by denying ever having *any* problems AT ALL...
Okay, I made this longer and more complicated/confusing than I could've imagined, but again, help would be rather nice. And don't give me a lame ass answer like "seek help from your GP" because I'm not gonna and I want a REAL answer.
Apologies and I appreciate you wasting your time. Merci beaucoup.
Missa8305 answered Thursday March 31 2005, 8:57 pm: Maybe you just think too much. I know I do, and I do all of those things...I have entire conversations, debates, and various pity-parties...all by myself :P According to my friends and family, such behavior is quite common.
While reading, I noticed that my negative thoughts were often caused by a lack of perspective. When I am irritated, I tend to ignore the fact that other people have feelings too and I shouldn't expect them to be perfect. When I have a problem, and I notice that I am only becoming more upset, it's usually because I have forgotten all the things that I have to be grateful for, or expect to be perfect, when I very well know that all people, including myself are imperfect.
I have a photograph, and I call it my "reality check." It is a picture of a young boy from Iraq in a pathetic excuse for a hospital. Both his arms were blown off during a bombing, and the majority of his body is severely burned. His parents, and most of his family is dead. His only remaining relative is his aunt. She sits by his bed, and told the journalist from "Time" that he does not know that his family has not survived the attack.
This is what real drama is. This is what happens when we forget that other people have feelings. I'm not trying to lecture you, I'm simply sharing the lecture that I give to myself :D I look at the picture and I remember to not be self-absorbed, and to thank God that isn't me lying on that cot. When I think about that, it is mighty difficult to be dramatic.
I don't really know what your problem is. And I'm sorry that I couldn't give you better advice. I'm sorry if my little speech sounds lame. And you may feel free to say so if you decide to write any feedback. All I can tell you, is what helped me...(Since you don't want me to tell you to visit a physician :P ) [ Missa8305's advice column | Ask Missa8305 A Question ]
LindasCounsel answered Thursday March 31 2005, 5:17 pm: Dear Mind,
First of all, talking to yourself is quite normal. The NOT normal thing is thinking that it isn't normal. When people say it makes them look weird, they are probably trying to get your approval, or vice versa. However, I see a few red flags in your letter. It sounds as if you may be a little obsessive/compulsive which makes you doubt a lot of things you do or say. But here's a secret. Lots of people feel insecure about things like that.
I think the main problem I'm seeing in this letter is that you say you're turning your life into a soap opera. It's called boredom. There is enough drama in this world than adding to it. Try to join into some groups, go out with friends and if you can't, please see someone whom you can trust and talk to. You can write to me at anytime if you are feeling conflicted. The best advice I can give to you is not to look for drama because believe me, it comes back to you to bite you in the ass and that will make things much worse. Good luck to you.
Linda [ LindasCounsel's advice column | Ask LindasCounsel A Question ]
PT answered Thursday March 31 2005, 1:02 pm: Ah ha, joining just to make you feel special...
softballcatb answered Wednesday March 30 2005, 3:33 pm: because you talk to yourself, you probably only think to yourself. By being with a friend, you might resolve and become more addicted to talking to your friends [ softballcatb's advice column | Ask softballcatb A Question ]
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