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I need advice
im a thirteen year old responsible teenager the problem with me is that my parents are getting a divorce. i dont have a problem with dat because my dad treats my mum like shit he beats her up and all all that stuff. Now i really want a boyfreind but my mum says no she says you cant have one till im 21 when i asked her why she said because in her day the didnt have boyfreinds at that age. everytime i want 2 mke my own decisions she makes them for me like wat clubs to join wat freinds i should hve what clothes to wear and im getting sick of it (i always have been) please help i also have a problem confronting her with my problems because she dups all her problems on me like im her phycatrist or sth, i cry myself to sleep everyday plse help
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Be like. You should becareful who you talk to. You never know when someone in a nice buttoned down shirt will stalk from office to office pumping colleagues and co workers with an armolite semi automatic weapon. It could be someone you've known for quite some time, it could be someone you barely know. Or maybe you should stop bringing me all your problems. She'll be just as scared of you as her husband and will probably send you off with him. Then you can be happy she doesnt care about you and doesnt want to be a nice mother and protect you from the harms of life.
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tell her this. straight out. i mean thats bull shit. she's full of shit. 21??? my god im 13 and my moms pushing me to get a boyfriend!!! just tell her.
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Hey!
Well what I would do is not even tell your mom anything about your boyfriend or personal stuff like that. And you letting her tell you her problems is good because she needs it just like you need help now and someone to tell.
Hope it helped!
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wow doode, thats no bueno..im sorry! It sucks cuz at that age you cant realli do anything about your mom telling you who and who not to date...And i know thats the age where everyones getting boyfreind and all that, but just give her a couple more years, and if she still wont let you date, then if you find someone you really like, ask her if you can just hang out with them as freinds, but you can know its more than that. Shes probably bieng protective cause of the way your dad treats her...when that happens to people they tend to think everyones like that. But you need to try to talk to her about your problems if you trust her enough, cause that way she will be more willing to let you be more independent, she will be able to trust you, and when she starts dumping all her problems on you, tell her how you feel about it...your a kid you dont deserve to have an adults problems dumped on you. You should be there for her, but dont let her take advantage of that. I hope i helped..goodluck!
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You need to do these things:
*Know that you will be able to date before 21, because when you're 18, they can no longer keep you in a house.
*Now, I'm not sure if you're interested in a certain guy right now, but if you aren't, then don't worry about dating until you actually find somebody.
*Get yourself a therapist, or a school counselor involved so that you can have at least some type of helpful mother figure, and maybe try getting your mom into therapy too, it sounds like shes really sad.
*Tell the therapist or counselor about this whole dating thing, and maybe ask your mom for a chance to show you a guy you happen to be interested in.
*AND make sure that you get some help too, because you're starting to get like your mom, really sad.
Basically what you need, is someone outside of your family to help you. But please, you and your mom need some help in this.
-TheTeenGirl
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tell her that her problems are really upsetting you ..
and about the bf thing .. how is she goinh to know that you have one?
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you should tell her, even though you dont want to really talk to her thats the best thign to do tell her that you'r old enough to make your own descions and that she can trust you with them! good luck hope it helped! hope everythig works out well! =) x0x
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