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Mama
I feel so bad that my mama and me dont always get along. She's my real mom and we have an arguement like 75 percent of the time we're together. she usually starts it. she'll yell at me about my attitude. and i would yell at her and shell get all mad at me and i get mad at her. sometimes she comes to apologize. but one time i told her off when she was trying to apologize then she yelled at me and she doesnt apologize anymore. now when we argue, it wears off. sometimes i go 2 days without talking to her but i dont want to. i wish i could get along with her. the sad thing is that i really need her. i cant wish for her to go away because i need her no matter how much we dont get along. she just doesnt understand me she tries to help me but ends up making things worse and i know its not her fault we just argue more than we spend time together even when we are spending time together. im sorry this is so long but i dont know what to do. can somebody help me?
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Then you need to make your mother listen to you. Sit her down and tell her exactly how you are feeling, and be strong about it. Let her know that you love her very much, and that all of this fighting between the two of you is hurting you a lot. Tel her that you miss the days when you and her didn't argue, and you wish that you and her could go back to them days. Let her know exactly how you feel, bare you soul. If you can communicate better in writing, then write her a very long and detailed letter. Mothers are human too, and sometimes when they make mistakes or hurt other people's feelings, they may not realize it and need to be told about it. It is good that you want a strong relationship mother, and hopefully after this talk or letter she will understand that.
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um you sound alot like me and my mom amd grandma. we fight all the time! and mainly cause of my attitude. i think that you should sit her down and explain to her u really need her and dont want to fight with her her any more. try to change your attitude. if she disagrees with you then dont get mad just say ok or something. try it and tell me how it works in my inbox or something!
-Kittie-
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you should never yell at your mother. i dont care if shes screaming at the top of her lungs...no screaming at the mamma.
regardless of what she says or what she does....shes your mom...moms have immunity...if she tells you to watch your attitude...its because she loves you. remember this it is very important....you only have one mother. your relationship with her will change as you grow up. sometimes its hard for adults to accept those changes. the fact that your mom tried to apologize to you says alot about the kind of person she is. some parents say mean things and it never even crosses thier minds to apoligize.
you cannot change your mom. she is who she is. but you can change the way you react to her. you have the power to change yourself.
so you already know that barking at your mother doesnt accomplish anything. try approaching her differently. speak softly...respectfully. she will notice the change in you.
take care
Louise
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I hate to say it, but this is a stage every parent child relationship goes through. If the two of you would go into family couceling it would help tremedously. If not, just hold on and try not to do anything to completely distroy the relationship. Lower your pride some, tell your mom you love her and that you are sorry sometimes. Here's the kicker: say I'm sorry even if you think you're right. Not everytime mind you, but sometimes back down. You two wouldn't fight so much if you didn't care. Someone you don't care about can't actually make you angry. Luck and love. I've been there, I think most adults have.
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i have the same exact problem -- i always end up yelling @ my mom even when i dont mean it ..idk i think all relationships are like that - i know im like that with my mom because we're the same and we spend a lot of time together .. when i get mad @ my mom i tell her why and then we're basically fine but i scream at her sometimes because im always in a bad mood [stupid boys and school] but then i feel bad i mean its not like we MEAN to do that or anything .. so im sure if you explain that you dont like her pretending to listen to you because you know if you didnt listen to her she would get mad @ you . hope i helped :)
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Well, you could apologize .. And tell her what you just said ..
Good Luck ;-)
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Just explain yourself..if she doesnt apologize anymore, then you should apologize..and if you dont feel like you owe an apology..just explain to her how you feel and why you feel that.. it might make her understand more..its not as easy as its sounds, but it will help you in the longrun
-Christine
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