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Triangle of friendship
I am a sophmore and I am best friends with two juniors. One male and the other female. WE are the best of friends, nothing could separate us. Laurel (the female) and I became best friends because we both love george (the male). Laurel always said how george was never going to want to be more than a friend and how she couldn't compete with his best friend (me). I also told her that he bluntly told me he wouldn't have a high school relationship with me but he could spend the rest of his life with me.
Just a couple days ago george asked laurel out and this surprised me, and now I am hurt. ( i also have a boyfriend that I love, too) Our friendship had gotten outta whack and the three of us got into lots of fights recently and I decided (after they got together) that nothing would be able to go back to the way it would so I stopped being best friends with them.
Now I have no one except my boyfriend. I want to go back and be their friends again, but I don't know how to go back without making it awkward for them since they both know I like him.
What should I do?
and who do I really love
my boyfriend or my best friend.
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Damn that is a complicated situation. There are a lot of possibilities here. The first - George changed his mind, and how he feels about Laurel, and has found that he cares about her as more than just a friend. There is also the possibility that he had cared about you very deeply, but because you have a boyfriend, realizes that he not only stands no chance, but would not want to try and come between the two of you. There is also the possibility that George is waiting for high school to end before sorting out how he feels about you, which is somewhat understandable, but has found Laurel to be more, this sounds awful, convenient.
In order to find any peace of mind here, you need to talk to George. Laurel will probably not be that informative, because she is most likely going to feel she needs to be defensive towards you, because she knows that George at least, at one point, care deeply for you. So approach George, or write him an email, just make contact. Find out, straight from him, what is going on. I know it seems strange and awkward, but at least if you find out his motives, you'll be able to put your mind at ease and see what you need to do next - stay friends? Move on? If you think about it, if you never find out for sure by asking George, you've pretty much lost the friendship anyhow, so awkwardness and fear of jeopardizing your friendship aren't a huge issue anymore. Maybe George has moved on from his feelings about you, because it happens, so if you find out, you can have some peace of mind and continue your relationship with your current boyfriend.
As for who you love, your boyfriend or your best friend, that is something that I can't really accurately evaluate. I will mention however, that the person you care the most about should be the one who is there for you as support when you most need it, the one who knows you the best, even times when they know more about you than you, and it should be the person that you know, deep down inside of you, that if you had never met, your entire life would be drastically, drastically different.
If they both live up to those, which is entirely possible, then you will have to evaluate each of these guys carefully and what it is about them that makes you love or simply care about them.
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