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should i trust him?
im 15 and theres this guy (also 15) and we both like each other. At least he says he likes me. right now we're kind of in a friends with benefits position, we dont want to go out becasue he smokes and drinks and i cant deal with that. the thing is, he tells me he wants to be more and that hes trying to quit, and i tell him i wanna be more too..... but the next day he goes tells all his friends that i wanna be more than friends and he leaves himself out of it., i just dont know if i can trust him, or why he does this. any advice?
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If he is doing that then you must not trust him. Its both that and he also smokes, so must stay far away from him, cuz if you get near him then you'll get addicted and you'll begin to smoke too.
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Hey, if this guy smokes and drinks at 15, thats not a good sign. Tell him to quit in 1 week or you'll dislike him. He's already doing crap to you like you mentioned how you both wanna be more and he only told his freinds about you wanting to be. Think what it's going to be like later if he continues. 1 week to quit if he doesn't your best bet is to get over hm
Sincerely,
snowkid111
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If you can't accept him bad habits and all...You're better off finding someone else.
Friends with benefits is not a good thing.Just means you will put out until somebody better comes along for him.Bad idea.You get hurt and the guy has fun....some good deal isn't it? So i'd have to say no, you can't trust him, you're being used.
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well you can almost definitely trust him in the relationship part, if he likes you alot, he'll probably treat you like a goddess, but as for the drugs part, im gonna be honest, from experience MOST GUYS do not stop drinking and smoking, and they usually lie about it and do it in private. thats usually how it goes, in my opinion, i say give him a chance!
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If he says he will stop, then hold him to it. Once he stops thats when you can go out with him. Like sort of a deal. While he hasn't you shouldn't go out with him unless you want phone calls of him telling you he is wasted and not remembering that he called. About what he told his friends...umm maybe he just wants it to sound like oh yea she wants me. boys will be boys haha.
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Dear should,
You've already answered your own question. Obviously you don't trust him already. And with good reason. He tells you one thing and he tells his friends another. That in itself is enough not to trust him. Add the drinking and the smoking to the equation and, well, you have some issues there. However, you sound like you have a very good head on your shoulders along with some fairly good judgement. So, I would leave it the way it is if you are comfortable with that. If you end of going out with him, your headaches will increase. Trust me. You are doing the right thing by standing up to him.
Good luck sweetie.
Linda
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oh wow..i'm against the smoking and drinkking thing but if that's what you like to go for, then do it if it makes you happy..and maybe he left himself out of it because he isn't that interested (no offense) or he doesn't want his friends to know that he's interested..idkk sory for the bad advice
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