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Ok, where to start? I'm a freshman in high-school, and I totally hate high-school. I mean, its not THAT bad, but I'd prefer middle school, anyday. Last year, (in 8th grade) I had it all. Great friends, boyfriends, pretty decent grades, and everybody liked me pretty much. I was Ms. Perfect, and I was supposedly SUPER-HOT, or so everybody said. Now, I feel like crap. I'm always trying to be someone I'm not. My best friend moved away, far and we barely ever keep it contact. My other best friend, well we don't even ever hang out because I ditched her for my current best friend, and so now she had better friends, and I'm just a nobody. And my new best friend, well we've only been friends for about a year, not entirely, but the fights we get into, its unbelievable. I haven't fought like I gought with her, with my other friends for two years. I mean, she's a good friend, but gets pissed easily, I mean we're two different people, I've talked to her about it before, but ehh. I don't know what to do. Now, guys. Yeah, people still like me, but not as much. There's lots more prettier girls! And life, my social life is horrible, my parents don't let me do shit. Guys, I've had two big crushes that both liked me but things got screwed up because I was too shy. I know how people say, that if you're popular and stuff in middle school, in high school you won't be, and vice-versa. I don't know what to do about ALL of this. Please help with everyhting, get my life back o track anfd better., Thanks os much!
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This is just first of many changes life will throw at you so hang on! After high is college after that jobs......It never ends!
Things won't be the same,but that doesn't mean they won't be okay.You just have to start out on the bottom again.
That isn't true that if your popular in middle school you won't be in high school.Some are and some aren't.Just be yourself, make new friends and don't worry so much about your statis of popularity.You'll do fine.
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Alright..first in middle school, you werent Ms. Perfect its just middle school is a lot smaller compared to highschool. And in middle school, people dont really care who you are your just you. But in highschool,there are many different types of people, and you dont fit into the category of all those people. You just have to learn to make friends be a lot of the ones you had in middle school are going to change and wont even act like they know you prolly. But just accept the fact things are different. As for your friends I dont know what to tell you, sorry that your bestfriend moved away. And as for the fighting with your one friend, yall probably arent so different from each other, yall are both really just alike deep down. But hey things will get better, because you will make new friends, so what if your not the popular fancy cheerleader or whoever, just be you and people will see that you are comfortable bein yourself, and people will like that in you.Goodluck!
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Try to make the best out of it. People are naturally drawn towards energetic and happy people. Put on a happy face and smile. If you have been tryin to be someone that you dont want to be then girl be yourself. That is the only way that you are going to make it through high school. Yea, it is gonna be hard but if you dont be your self then you will get a rep that you dont want. No matter what your type surround yourself with all types of people. Try makin new friends. You are gonna have to be brave. If someone is talkin trash let it go. It doesnt matter. Make it look like you are havina great life. Take a lil more time to work on the grades then your parents may become a little less controling. If that happens you will have more freedom. Maybe try being friends with alot of guys instead of having one boo. Hope everything works out. Just try some things you may be suprised with the result. Good luck.
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You've got to start being yourself. You have to, it's going to kill you. Dress in clothes *you* like, hang out with people *you* think are fun and just let your personality shine through. If you're having a blast in life, everything else will fall into place.
If you don't like your current best friend, make some more. Talk to people. It takes a while, but you'll find more people that you get along with better.
Don't worry too much about boys. The best romance just kinda comes out of nowhere. It's no fun if you tracked it dowm.
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Dear Life,
I think you're going about the whole popularity thing the wrong way. Here's a secret....the harder you try to be popular, the harder it will be. The trick is to act as if you don't care whether you are popular or not. Just take for granted that if you do the following things, popularity will naturally follow...
1. Act like you are having fun in school and you will eventually feel as if you're having fun and people will be drawn to you.
2. Smile and be friendly. People like people who like them.
3. Regarding your current best friend...sometimes people are in your life for only a time in order for you to grow. When that purpose is served, if the friendship is no longer serving you, and you are miserable and unhappy with this person, sever the relationship.
4. With guys...guys like confidence. They like girls who are friendly and nice. (But not overly nice.) If you feel good about yourself, it shows and people will feel good about you.
I think you're gonna do fine. Start by making small steps to make yourself feel better about yourself. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and good about yourself. Smile. Act as if you are a happy person. Stay positive. Don't be negative about the little things. You'll begin to make lots of new friends, guys will be more attracted to you and you will easily become popular again.
Oh, by the way, the being popular in middle school and then in high school, you won't be, well....that's just crap.
Good luck girl!
Lindacht
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Okay well, in middle school you were a big fish in a small pond and now in high school you are a small fish in a big pond. What that means is that yeah we were popular and everything in middle school but you were with less people and now you are with more people so that there is more people look at and so you are the smaller one. [hope that helped a little.] But also what I am saying people still like you but they like others to they still think you are pretty because you can't really change that they just like more people. It happens all the time just you have to go with the flow, but really try not to be someone you aren't because last year you were your self right??, yeah and that is what they liked so just be yourself and maybe something might workout and things won't be the same as they used to be but you can come close to it if you do what I said. Hope I helped>3~Chrissie I'm always here if you need me!
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