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I have a very close male friend. (I am female.) We used to have feelings for each other and had a very short lived relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. Now we are just really good friends. A lot of people think we have feelings for each other and say how we should date and things. The thing is, we really don't feel that way about each other. We tell them that we don't but people wont shut up. It never used to bother me but it's started to get really annoying and embarassing. What should I do?
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Ok, I've been thinking about something that could help you. I'm not entirely sure if I can help, but I'll try to ramble on for a bit until what I say starts to make sense. Sound good? :)
Anyway... Lets say your close male friend is heme, and everyone else collectively are hemalysers. (sorry, I've been studying blood morphology all weekend)
Ok... I'm guessing that if these hemalysers continue to tell you two to hang out, your going to keep getting embarrassed, and it's going to just make you more and more uncomfortable. Eventually this could lead to you and Heme not hanging out as much, just so you don't have to deal with the uncomfortable-ness.
This is a bad thing. You shouldn't have to give up a really close friend just because the Hemalysers are too immature to accept that a girl and a guy can be just friends.
Have you mentioned to them that it's really annoying? If not, then you should. You can continue to say "We don't like each other like that" But they're going to believe what they want to believe no matter what you say. Perhaps if they know that them bugging you about this really does bother you enough, then they'll be decent enough to stop.
Just say something like "Dude, that's really annoying. The only thing it does is make me not even want to hang around Heme anymore" If it was me, I would say it a little harshly... but then again, that's because I'm a bitch. :)
Young people are foolish. They seem to think that two straight people of the opposite sex can't possibly be very close without wanting to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Besides my female roommate, my best friend is my ex boyfriend. I've never had to deal with constant annoyance from other people when we go out to eat together or spend all night talking about each other's problems.
If none of this works, then your just going to have to learn to ignore the hemalysers. You don't want them to succeed in lysing everything apart now do you?
It will stop eventually. It might take a nice summer vacation for them to get over it, but it will eventually stop.
sorry it's so long, my thoughts usually work like that. Good luck with everything.
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