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Im not happy
No matter what I do everyday when I come home from school I am always unhappy. Im happy in school I laugh and everything but for some reason when I come home everyday the same house seems depressing. I dont really like my family and since im young as my mom says I dont get to go out as much as Id like. What do you think is wrong with me and what should I do?
P.s. I've talked to my guidance conselor and shes awsome but her talks arent making me happier nor are they helping me.
:( PLEASE HELP
Jacki
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i dont know why you are deppresed? maybe you should set up something to do with your friends afer school or after school activities that way you wont have to be home that much !! and if that doesnt work figure out why you dont like your family and why you r depressed !! well hope i helped some !! if you want email me at cold_burn_22@yahoo.com
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The answers are not outside. They are not at school. All the answers are in between your ears. It's all in your head. Now I know that doesn't make it any easier, but think about what about home makes you depressed. Change it. Keep busy. The times we are most depressed is when we are alone. Why don't you like your family? Start to like them. What? you ask. Really start to like them. Stop looking at the annoying things and look at the positive. Maybe your mom is on top of you to do things, so do them. Get them done before she asks you. I didn't say this was going to be easy but you'll be a lot happier. Don't focus on the fact that she doesn't do something the way you want her to, focus on the fact that dinner was really good. Or maybe just the fact that she took the effort to make you dinner. You can be a positive force for yourself and others around you. It will make a huge difference in your life. I don't know enough information to tell you more than that. Be reissured most people out there have or are suffering from depression, so you are not alone. I don't know if you are in an abussive household or anything like that, if you are then we are talking about something very different and it's a good thing to tell your counselor about that. But if it's not abusive then you have to do something about your depression. Do is the definitive word. Do something. Help yourself. I know that you can better your own life even at an early age if you put some action into it. Hope I was helpful. That's my advice.
John
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You know, it never ceases to amaze me just how insensitive some people can be to some other people! Honey, I used to be in your shoes -- heck, I'm still in those shoes, but I've learned to step beyond the hurt, the unhappiness and depression. It's partially a phase, partially just growing up and partially lack of communication.
It might help to bridge the gap between you and your mom by talking with her when you come home from school. I'm assuming she works. Well, do you cook? Fix her something nice for dinner. Do you clean? Clean the kitchen or the livingroom or part of the house WITHOUT HER ASKING YOU TO. On a weekend, ask her if she'd like to go to the mall with you. Try to re-create some communication lines with her, a relationship with her. Mothers are not the "big bad wolves" - chances are they're hurting for you but are not quite sure how to help you and possibly don't want to try something because you will say no or gag or something. So take your own chances. If you're worried about what your friends may say, believe me, they'll actually respect you (they may never say it) for spending time with your mom. And you might start being happier.
If that doesn't work, see someone other than your guidance counsellor - they're often more for school stuff and not personal (although some blur the line). Hope I helped -- let me know if you need to talk.
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I'm about to say something that is going to seem oversimplified but it's so true. Sometimes being happy is a choice. You have to find something to do at home that makes you happy. Like bringing friends home from school, art, dance,music etc. Have you talked to your mom about this? Is your family mean or do they just not "get you"? I always felt like my mom just didn't understand me, but as I've gotten older, I have found that she understood more than I ever gave her credit for. Try talking to her about this. You may be surprised with what she has to say.
If it doesn't go well find someone else in the family(even a cousin or aunt) that might be able to help you figure this out.
Good luck I hope it gets better.
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I can totally relate to you. I would be really hyper, funny and cheery in school and when I'm with my friends, but I would always cry and feel alone when I'm at home by myself. Well, now I'm like cherry and funny 24/7. I guess I was just in a phase.. now I'm not as sensitive anymore. maybe you're just experiencing a phase also. I know you're not depressed cuz then you would be unhappy in school also.
Things will get better, and you will not feel as bad, I'm sure of it
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