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Should I wait or take a risk?
ok, well one of my best friends in the world REALLY likes me and i kind of like him to, but hes not exactly the best person to have a relationship with. you see he has a bad reputation for goin out with girls just to "get somewhere" and then dumping them after he goes as far as they r willing to. he also has been known to get a little crazy at parties and drink every now and then just to drink. since i am the typical "goody goody" it doesnt make a whole lot of sense. he knows i dont want to "go" even close to as far as he has gone before, i wont drink... ever, and im not a party animal like him at all. easy decision, right? wrong. he claims that he wants to change all of that bout himself and wants a girlfriend like me to help him do that. he is truely sincere and really sweet and always there for me when i need him. i dont know what to do! if thats not hard enough, he lives almost an hour away and cant drive yet (neither can i) so the whole seeing each other face to face is kind of not gunna happen much. my parents arent exactly fond of him either, and im sooo busy right now with sports and school that im afraid i wouldnt be able to be a "good girlfriend" and that if he hasnt or doesnt change it will just get messy and ill loose a best friend. should i take a chance and see what happens, explain that being best friends is how i want it to stay, or explain that right now timing is just bad and delay the relationship until i know he has changed?
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Dont be his girlfriend.instead continue to be his best friend and help him with his problem,and when he changes and really stays that way,and if he still likes you and you still like him you could consider being his gf.
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ok well my theory is everyone diserves a chance ok i have seen a lot of people change all my friends that were totally druggies and alcoholics including myself when it comes to alcohol well we all cleaned up and we are all better people now and i sincerely mean that i havent had a drink in about 2 years and my friends havent smoked pot or done coke in about 1 1/2 years so we are all doing good and my ex boyfriend and shaped up i mean yeah he used to force me into doing stuff with him and stuff like that but now hes better he is a better friend and boyfriend to his new gf i would give this guy a chance and see the thing is ok well yeah the long distance is hard yeah but my brother and his gf were able to do it they have been going out for almost 4 years and they just got engaged recently so i know it can work out trust me they are happier then ever. good luck hope you make the right choice.
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There is excitement in the challenge of corrupting good girls. If he's talking about change, he may be willing to meet in the middle, but eventually he will want to "go" somewhere with you...
If he has been sexually active before, he will gentally preasure you to hug, then to cuddle, then to kiss... and he will slowly move forward as far as you are willing to let him, and will keep preasuing you untill you are ready for what ever comes next...
If you decide to be in this relationship (which I do not discourage, personally) you should be aware and prepared for that.
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You need to trust your gut here. No guy will ever change for a girl. Plain and simple. He may change for a while but he'll revert to his old ways shortly. He will try to get as far as he can with you. I'm a guy,I know how we think. An hour away is quite a little distance even if you CAN drive. I say ditch the loser.
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