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boyfriend or best friend?
okay im 14/f...and ive been best friends with this guy for 3 years and hes been in love with me for 3 years, we've never done anything sexually er w/e..but hes been wait'n on me fer 3 years and ive had like 5 er 6 boyfriends in the last 3 years but he still stuck with me...soo i went out with this one guy over the summer and at the beggining of the school year for 3 months and i broke up with him and my best friend was rly sad b/c i went out with him..and it never rly bothered him before but then when me and this guy broke up my best friend caught us in the hallway makin out and that lead him to cutting...witch i got him to stop that now but i felt rly bad...but now i dont like my ex-boyfriend and ive ALWAYS had feelings for my best friend but i never realized how strong they were this past like month....and i mean hes always loved me and hes always been there for me so i dont know if i should go out with him or just be friends...b/c i mean we do everything together and wherever you find him youll find me and wherever you find me youll find him...so i rly dont know what to do b/c my ex-boyfriend is still in love with me and i dont know b/c i dont wanna hurt him by goin out with my best friend er w/e so what do you think i should do? should i hook up with my best friend?
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yes go for the best friend..i mean you have known this guy for 3 yrs. you haven't known ur ex for that long and if ur friend likes you well that must mean something.....good luck...bye
love,
charolette
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Alright well it seems like you really depend on your best friend, and he's ALWAYS there for you. 3 years lol hes been waiting for a long time. You should try dating him and see how it goes. If it doesn;t work out I know how people say that you should jsut be friends but that doesn'y always work out.....and that's just a risk you're going to have to take, but I think you should DEFFIDENTLY date him! Hes So into you!
with much love :P
Mandy Mae
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Alrighty, lets see here...
Communication is the absolute key to a relationship, any relationship--friendship, courting, marriage, siblings, parents. It all needs communication. He needs to know how you feel, exactly how you feel. If you can't give him everything up front, it wouldn't have worked anyway. Him seeing you making out with a guy led him to cutting? It takes previous mental instability to do something like that. Don't even begin to blame that on yourself. Don't make a decision to appease someone else. Do it because it makes you happy. Going out with someone because they like you while you're liking someone else is going to lead to much more heartbreak than necessary. You just have to be true to yourself. Well, good luck with everything :-)
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i think you should go with your best friend. if he loves you as much as you said and you have strong feelings for him, then it would work. i mean, i know you probably had a great relationship with your ex, but i bet your friend knows you and gets you more than your ex. he sounds like the type of friend who knows your deepest secrets and stuff like that. and if your ready to take it to the next level, you should do it. cuz i think it'll be a really and healthy relationship. hope i've helped!
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i know this is going to sound really cliche, but follow your heart, if you have feelings for your best friend, i mean stong feelings, then you should go for it. but just to cover your self, but only if you can trust him, tell your ex your feelings, so he doesn't get to jealous.
-nikki
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maybe you should tell him how you feel, i know it's not easy and i know a lot of people probably tell you that about a lot of things. but it will make you and him feel SOOO much better. it's hard to try to make two people happy, but do what you think is the best. maybe you could just be friends with both of them. but never do something unless it makes you happy.
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