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my boyfriend is my best friend. we were together for 4 months in the past and now weve been together for 3 months. we have so much fun together, when were not fighting. but were always fighting it seems. he says bad things about himself or how he doesnt think we will ever be fully open with eachother, even though were both trying to be. He gets jealous really easily and he thinks hes just another guy to me.... and hes not and I have told him that soooo many times. I dont know what to do but I want all the fighting to stop. Please help.... thanks!
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What you need to do is sit down with him and tell him how you feel about the way you guys fight. Explain to him that you enjoy being with him, but when you fight it's hard to act around him. I really don't know how to help in this situation because my boyfriend and i barely fight. Maybe you should find out the main cause of all these arguments and prevent it from happeneing. I think the best thing to do though is to just sit down with him and explain how you feel about the fighting. Let him know that you really care about him and he's not just "another" guy. You could also do more activities together like going out more. That might get him more involved in you and less fighting would occure.
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me and my guy are the same way.. we fight non-stop about stuff like this, and we've been together for a lil over 4 months. tell him that ya'll gotta be honest with eachother. if your not gonna be honest, then there's no good point in dating eachother? hope that helped :o)
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hey sweetheart.. i typed something before about not having time so if you read it, ignore it. anyways heres the thing. its really good that your boyfriend is your best friend, but since the 2 of you are best friends shouldnt you be able to talk and be fully open with eachother? the guy im involved with is also my best friend and has been for many years- and we are totally honest and open with eachother about everything- even if it may cause us to fight. your boyfriend is going through that stage where he thinks that hes not good enough and that hes going to lose you. that can be bad, but not if handle it right. the fighting is resulting my guess is from him being jealous and you getting mad that he is and blah blah blah! BUT im glad that the 2 of you are tryin to be fully open with eachother.. thats a great start! ok so here is what you need to do tho. you need to sit your boyfriend down (even tho youve told him many times before) you need to let him know that hes not just another guy. you have to reasure him that he has no need to be jealous of other guys because hes the one that your with, and that you had the chance after the last time you broke up to be with other guys.. but that your just not interested. let him know again that he is the only one that you are interested in. let him know and show him how much you care for him and appreciate him. i know that this might not seem great but believe it or not, the fact that the 2 of you can fight and work it out is a really good thing!! that proves that the 2 of you are ready to be in this commited relationship and that the 2 of you really want to be with one another. his confidence is low because hes goin through that stage- but dont worry all guys do so it is normal. but since its low you need to take that into consideration and not get so frustraighted with him. im sure that if you sit down and talk and be OPEN and HONEST and speek from your heart the 2 of you will be fine and everything will be alright. but i hope that this helped you out. i want to wish you the best of luck!
xoxo -Jena
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