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im not ready..........
me and my bf have been together for a long time now..the only stuff weve done is i gave him a handjob ONCE and that was it. im not a virgin and neither is he. i dont want to have sex with him though because i am so scared to get pregnant its too risky. lately hes been kinda like feeling up my shirt and trying to put his hand in my pants. i always stop him by making an excuse. i dont want to seem like a sissy though. hes done EVERYthing...n ive only done it once...i get nervous now i know he wont do nething till im not ready but i dont know how to tell him. i just get a weird feeling when he wants to do stuff im not ready yet...how do i tell him...=\
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Tell him how you really feel. If he cares about you he will wait until you are ready.
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you just have to tell him. if you've been going out long enough, it shouldn't be a big deal. you said he woudln't do anything if you're not ready, so you just have to tell him that you don't want to rush anything, and you're just not ready yet. eventhough you aren't a virgin, that doesn't mean that you automatically have to have sex, or even do sexual stuff with every guy you date. don't be ashamed of it or anything, it's actually quite admirable!! just be open and honest with him. your relationship will be stronger that way too. hope this helped. good luck!
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Hey sweetie! I know exactly how you feel... and you shouldn't be presured so much.. Even though i do understand its expected. Maybe you should become more close to your boyfriend and then it would be easier to talk to him about it. Just don't be worried because he should understand. Make Sure your ready too.. because that last thing you want to do is somthing sexual you would regret or feel uncomfortable doing, SO don't do it just because you want to make him happy or think your cool and not a sissy. It should be a good moment for the both of you when you are ready, so be open with him and have fun when you think its time !:D hope i helped, good luck =D
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He's your boyfriend and therefore he should love you and respect the fact that you're not ready. Guys tend to be big bags of testosterone, so he may have "forgotten". Just remind him that you're not ready and when you are you'll tell him.
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Hey I know what you're going through. The key to a great relationship is trust, honesty, and communication. Do you trust that he won't push you into doing anything you won't want to do? Be honest and tell him that you're not ready to do anything. If he loves you then he wont' force you into doing anything you don't want to do. If he does, then he's not worth your time at all. You said you're scared to get pregnant and that it's too risky. You're exactly right. It is too risky because you can get pregnant and STDs. Don't be scared to tell him that. He's not going to think you're a sissy for telling him that or being scared. Having sex IS a big deal. Lots of people don't think it is, but it IS a big deal. Just sit him down and talk to him, tell him that you're nervous and you're not ready to be doing that yet. You'll be fine, just talk to him. Hope this helped!
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