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i was gonna be an aunt
Ok i have 3 sisters and 1 brother. My oldest sisteris married and has a daughter who is 2 and her husband has a daughter from a previous relationship who is 6. So im an aunt of 2 and my 2nd oldest sister found out that she was pregnant with her fiance of 6 years. im 14 years old. my sister is almost 5 months pregnant halfway through but she went for an ultrasound one day. she noticed that the baby really didn't move that much so she let the doctors know. her baby was tested positve for spinalbifida which could possibly make the baby never walk. Then she started freakin out and she blamed it on genetics because our cousin has it. so she went to a specialist to find out if the baby had the disease or not. Apparently my mom researched evry symptom that she had with the baby and it turns out the baby has a very rare disease called potters sequence which is where the babies kidneys are to big where they are hard and pushing on the lungs giving no way for a life. the longest the baby can live is probably only a couple of hours. its really tearing my sister apart. and we are real close so its tearing me up b/c she aint talkin to me. What im askin is how do i try to get through to her without makin the situation worse or makin her cry? i really dont know howq to handle this. but i cant just not say nething b/c she needs me she always said i was the best person to talk to. she has always helped me and i just wanna say nething possible to help her. extremaly worried
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Well I don't think there is anyway to talk to her about this without making her cry but if you don't want to like come right out and be like I'm sorry and all of that, why don't you buy her a card or something and write everything in there. Let your sister know that your there for her because she's always been there for you. I think thats all she really needs is to know someone that she loves is right there for her.
sorry about the baby and your sister and everything else.
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I'm so sorry, for both you and your sister. Loosing a child is heartbreaking, and it must be incredibly hard on the family as a whole to try and support your siter through this.<p>
I know you want to do as much as you can, but, sadly, there isn't much you can do. Your sister needs to grieve for the baby. Though it is very difficult to watch anyone, let alone people we love, suffering from grief, it is necessary for her to accept things and, eventually and with time, move on. Try to be there for her physically as a shoulder to cry on, but also remember to take care of yourself, as this will also be an emotional period for you where you too need support. I know it's tempting, but don't try and take on too much. You can't just magically make your sister feel better, as much as you'd love too, and if you try and take on too much emotional weight from her when you are still relatively young and ill-equipped to deal with such a tragedy you will hurt yourself even more, which I'm sure your sister doesn't want you to do. The best thing you can do is try to work together as a family to support each other. All the best.
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