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Highschool
Ok, at school they want us to start thinking about what highschool we are going to go to, and a few people came in and talked about their school. I really liked this one school, and i told the rents about it and they forbid me to go there 1. to far away and the bus will be an extra 1,000 dollars and we dont hav alot of money 2. they just dont like the school!
Well my sister goes to this one school, and i went to school with her this one day its called shaddowing, and i absolutely hate it there and would be misserable if i went there, well thats the only school my parents will let me go to! But wait, thats not all of it... my cousin who is my age wants me to go to the highschool by him and i could move in with them, and leave my whole life behind, and i wouldnt want to do that, and it would make my cousin mad if i dont go there, and my parents said they would never talk to me again if i do. I am so congfused and lost. All my friends know what highschool they are going to go to, and all their parents dont care where they go! I dont know what to do, and i always cry now when ever someone mentions the word crying... help PLEASE!!!
Amber advice column name is shanberca
thank you plz answer this i really need help!
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first of all : i know what it's like to A. have strict parents that raelly basically control your life even up to highschool... B. have to part with your friends just because of a gay ass highschool.. and C. being confused and lost and having to constantly choose sides.. now for your answer... you should try to really talk to your parents (i dont know them personally so i don't know what buttons you can actually push and etc) but try to talk to them and make them see this is really tearing you apart and that highschool is a really big deal to you. now for your cousin thing.. you guys are blood related and he/she should be able to forgive you for something as stupid as umm.. leaving your entire life behind just to go to school with him and have your parents pissed off. yeah.. doesn't really sound like a big deal to get mad at you anymore right? break it down to him/her and make him/her see that this is YOUR choice and that she/he will just have to support you. you should go to the school you want (and yeah i know its really hard to be strong like that when everyone else around you is like having the better end of the bargain with thier parents relationship and etc). hope i helped!
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hey-- i am in highschool too and i am a freshman....unfourtunatly i did not have to deal with the problem you have becuase they choose the school for you....and then your parents can change you if they feel free too. but anyways i know what you are going through becuase My brother had to choose the highschool he wanted to go to...becuase we lived some where else. but anyways you should really talk to your parents about it and if the school they dont want to you to go to is the best school for you then put up one Hell of a fight i mean it is your education and your choice becuase you have to go there for 4 years...and i remember you mentioning that your family does not have a lot of money right now and 1,000 dollars is a lot to spend on a bus to take you home....but see if you have a friend going to the school and if you do maybe they can give you a ride home or take you to there house and then your parents come pick you up. But if they still say no then you may have to choose another highschool as horrible as that may sound. Maybe you should ask your friends were they are going and maybe check that school out....all highschools are not all that bad....and for you cousin if you go to his school then that is super awesome but you mention how your family would like hate you forever.....family is family and no matter what they say they WON'T ever turn their back on you because you are one of Their Children. and i know that is the truth because my family is CRAZY and says stuff like that all the time once they kicked my Bro out for 2 months and made him live in his car. but no everything is O.K. You have to put up on HELL of a fight just do what you want and if no one is happy about it then TOO BAD becuase you in highschool your going to start to learn to do things on your own and this could be a "jump-start" to all that. and if they are not happy at least you are. just listen to your heart and your mind.....becuase you are going to have to go there for 4 years and that is a VERY long time. well i hope the Advice helped and just remember it is your life. well good luck.
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Hi. I'm in highschool now. I'm a freshman. I really had a tough time choosing my highschool too. My mom said I could go where ever I wanted to. But my dad said I had to go to Scecina, or he wouldn't help pay my tuition. (parents are divorced) But my mom said where ever I'll be happy at, I should go, and we'd find some way to pay for it. So I chose Cathedral. But now I want to transfer to Scecina, because I don't like Cathedral like I thought I would, but that's beside the point. I don't think your parents are being very fair on this point. They won't ever talk to you again? I mean..that's a little harsh. That's not right to do as a parent. And as for your cousin..forget him..this is your life. And this is where you're going to be going to school for the next FOUR years of your life, and I think you should be able to enjoy them! You really need to sit down, and talk with your parents, and if worst comes to worst. Move in with your cousin. Your parents will finally realize they can't just not talk to you forever, and everyone will come to their senses.
I hope this helped, and if not..I'm terribly sorry for waisting your time.
-Nik!
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