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ok, i love my boyfriend(lets call him peter) with all my heart, body and soul, but before i got with peter, like 3-4 months before i was with his best friend(lets call him danny).
originally i met peter, then his introduced me to danny, my b/f awhile ago always flirted but he never made a move or anything so things just happen with danny, after me and danny were together peter backed off, then we broke up, and i was single for awhile then me and peter get together and we have been happy, it seems like whenever danny gets brought up(they are still friends btw) he gets all emo and talks about how i broke his heart, i love him but i dont wanna have to be the cause hes so sad sometimes, im supposed to be his girlfriend, making him smile.. but instead it feels like the past with danny only makes him sad..
i dont know what to do. i wanna be with him but i dont know how to handle knowing i make him sad ='(
help. what should i do?
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okay.... chances are this isnt the worst thing that happened or is gunna happen to him so dont feel bad!!! and second, maybe you should jus kinda hit to "peter" that it bothers you how he brings that up. say it playfully or sumthin like im really sorry i hurt you but, i realized that i really did like you.... ect. and jus make him feel better about himslef!!
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Maybe you should just not bring danny up to peter any more.
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Why would it hurt him that you had been with Danny if you didn't cheat on him. You were with Danny before Peter, so if anyone is hurting shouldn't it be Danny? That's effed, and it's not your fault.
Ask Peter why it makes him feel bad. Because you were with Danny before anything ever happened with Peter. Then go from there. x_x
Good luck.
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you have to talk to him and tell him that you love him a lot, and thats all that matters. The love that you guys have should not have any bearing on what you and danny had, cos the feelings aren't the same. I hope that he understands and doesnt make u feel so guilty!!
**_Nicole_**
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Thats tough. The best thing that I could think for you to do is to explain to him that you didn't mean for it to happen one way or another but things just kind of hit of with peter and you. Just re-assure him of your feelings for him and mayb explain to him that you all could be friends if you all wanted to be. Re-assuring him of things I think is the best way to get his attention and make him realize that he is really loved and cared for by you, and that now is now, and then was then. What is done is what's done.
P.S. - I would also try asking him what is bothering him. A sit down with him maybe an answer. My belief is that friendship and the ability to communicate is the best quality in a relationship. If you need me to break it down, feel free to message me. Check my column for info. Hope I helped. :)
*JT
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