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what to do---is this guy worth my time???
(i'm a junior girl, the guy in question is a senior) Okay, so i went out with this guy for 3 months a while back, but i dumped him over the summer. I did it for lots of reasons- bc i didnt really like him nemore, it was getting too serious for me(mentally, emotionally, and i was a liitle worried taht it would become too much sexually although i know i could say "no" at any time and he would have totally been ok with it.) anyways, i also kinda did it bc there was this other guy i kinda liked. Afterwards, i totally regreted afterwards. He was so good to me especilly bc i was younger. We were both involved in the same extra-curricular activties. he has currently been flirting with me and recently broken up w. his g/f to try to win me back. idk what to do. i kinda want to go for it but at the same time i dont. hes not conventionally good looking but thats not important to me. he also used have a bad rep so ppl are kinda like what r u doing dating him? but thats why we worked! we were so different taht it worked! i never really trusted him fully tho. i just dont know what to do. we had so much fun.
help me!
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Your question shows that you are deeply unsure about your relationship with this guy. You say you liked him and still do, yet you broke up with him, you say you could have always said no, but that you never trusted him fully, etc. It sounds in places as though you seem to be clutching at straws trying to convince yourself that it worked, telling yourself that you were both similar and different and that everything was hunkydory.
Honestly, I think you like this guy. But I think there's a lot of ambivalence here and you're looking back and trying to read stuff in a way that it wasn't. Try and distance yourself from the situation a bit and look at it objectively - do you just want him because he's now taken, or do you genuinely want to be with him again? Did you ever really trust him, or are you just trying to squash down your own fears about this? Does his reputation really not bother you, or is it something that only doesn't bother you at the moment because you are, as it were, blinded by the headlights?
Whatever you do, I think taking it slowly is a good idea, as there is obviously something that is bothering you about the situation. Hopefully it will become clearer with time how you really feel towards this guy and from there you can do what you want. Good luck!
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Just bang him and get it over with, I mean you know you want to, plus if you really like this guy so much, and u picture urself as mature then do him and you'll be happier in the long run (physically and emotionally)and you don't really wanna ask what if for the rest of your life, whats the fun in that?
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It seems like we went threw alot to be with you, so I dont think its fair for him, but if you dont like him, or your better off as friends, you should just tell him how you feel truthfully because you cant hide your feelings, and its hard to care about someone you dont like...so tell him how you feel or just give it time and see how everything works out, because you dont wanna give up a really nice guy for another guy that might just be a one time thing ...
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Well, give him another chance since you guys had soo much fun together. I think it might work out. But this is totally you!!! Good luck with your decision!!!
~*Chelsea*~
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Hey, Im a junior too. I recently dated a sophmore in college who had a bad rep, and was completely different from me. Everyone told me it was a bad idea, but I stuck with it. I'll tell ya, he ended up hurting me in the end, but we had so much fun. So my advice to you is, he sounds like he likes you but make sure that you both want the same thing out of any sort of relationship you have. Forget what other people say, and it sounds like you want him also...so in my opinion, go for it...just be careful.
-britty
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Girl you need to give him another shot... you talk so good about him. And who cares what people think of him and you two being together. Seriously people are so shallow they dont forgive and forget like some do. I say give hime another shot and if it doesnt work out then its not ment to be. Best wishes and good luck to you!
-holly-
hope i helped
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