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i need it!!
all of my friends have sex now, im 14! and i dunno i can't ever have sex with anybody if they ever ask me, and i know many people are going to tell me to wait n stuff, but i love my boyfriend and i really want to have sex with him!! but i can't im too afraid, or im just uncomfortable w/ my body, how can i do it??! please gimme sum help!
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14? Wow. I'm not going to preech (because I hate it when I'm preeched to LOL) But I waited until I was almost 20 (like 2 months before my birthday, I'm still 19)
What are you afraid of? It hurting or getting pregeant or what? I'd go to a doctor or Planned Parenthood (they would probably be a better choice based on your age) and get cheaper birth control and most PP's give out free condoms, so you don't have to worry about anyone seeing you buy them.
As far as being uncomfortable with your body, who isn't really? If your boyfriend is truly a nice guy, he won't care how you look =)
Good luck & if you have more questions, let me know.
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I started having sex at late thirteen, so about...a year ago, I guess. First of all, does your boyfriend want sex? You need to talk to him about how far you are willing to go. Make sure you guys are both prepared to have sex, and you won't back out if it gets serious. Second of all, there's no reason to be uncomfortable with your body! If your boyfriend really loves you, he won't care how big your breasts are or how slim you are. Make sure you realize sex isn't just about your figure, it's about love. And do you want it just because other people are having it? Virginity is a virtue! Don't have sex unless you're sure you want it.
I hope this helps =D
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I don't think you should, but if its something you're sure you won't regret, and you're ready for a kid incase the contraceptive doesn't work... or if you have enough money for an abortion.... i guess it would be alright. If you really want to, you should try doing other stuff first... then if you're sure you're ready, you should be pretty comfortable with it. If you still aren't comfortable with your body, you should wait until you're married, becuz then you should be comfortable with your husband if anyone.
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If you're uncomfortable or afraid you ARE NOT READY. So don't do it. Der.
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14 is just too young for it. You have your whole life ahead of you! It could ruin your life! You should do it when you are mature enough and ready, not because everyone else is. I bet not everyone is having sex anyways!
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ok your 14 that is soo young your what in like 8th or 9th grade I know you don't wanna hear this but don't have sex until your older. Also if you have doubts about it then don't do it that's a sign you arent ready.
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*Listen to yourself, you're not ready! I hate to say it but you're really not. Your afraid and your uncomfortable. You will know when it's the right time to have sex and it's not going to be now. ALSO DON'T GIVE INTO PEER PRESSURE!*
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That fact that you're to afraid, is a dead sign that you're not ready. Wait untill you're not afraid, then you'll know what to do, and be able to have sex. Don't do it because all your friends are, wait untill you're phisically and mentally ready.
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If there is any doubt in mind, DON'T DO IT!!!
Okay, just because eveybody else is having sex doesn't mean you should. Majority of my friends do pot and drink, but I don't, I have too much going for me to end up dead, or pregnant from having sex while drunk.
If you have sex, you could get STD's, or pregnant, and at this young of an age, you could die during pregnancy.
So don't follow the crowd, be unique, and independent!!
BE YOU, do what you're comfortable doing, not what you want to be judged on doing. Having sex isn't the best thing in the world, it's like what 15 minutes of pleasure. You can't be in love, and you have SOOOOO much going for you, no matter what you think. Just hang in there, atleast wait till 16 before you have sex, that way you'll be developed enough to be able to have a somewhat easy birth if you get pregnant. Believe me, sex isn't something you truly want.
Just wait, have fun while you still can!!
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