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Meeting
(I asked this question to everyone before, but I have certain favorite columnists so I'll just ask them now)
Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.
P.S.:Before I got answers about being careful because i don't know him. This is true, but I'm just telling you now that there's no need to worry about him being some old perv, I know 2 of his friends and random people who went to school with him, he ain't armed or dangerous, folks. :)
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First, it's good that you are thinking about safety. I will point out that just because someone isn't an OLD perv doesn't mean they aren't s YOUNG perv, but we'll move on...
I don't think it sounds like this guy wants to meet you. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it does sound like he was trying to politely put you off by saying it would be 'weird' to meet. Add that to the fact that he ignored you Sunday, and then didn't mention the plans at all the next time you talked....and I think it's time for you to find flesh-and-blood people to hang out with.
You'll have to think about how to go on; personally, I would gradually stop talking to the guy. He may be friendly or charming, but he's only interested in being an online personna. Maybe he's shy, maybe he just wants to chat online for fun, maybe he wants to be closest to people he actually sees every day.
Whatever his reasons, it's time for you to regroup and find people who DO want to spend time with you.
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