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To tell them?
Ahkay Dru. Here's the thing. I'm 13, and I cut myself. Yes, it's not good, it's not safe, and I realise it's idiotic, but it's what I rely on and for the short term at least it's going to have to stay that way. No lectures, please; I know, I really do. I've heard it all. Now, 2 of my friends know because I told them. And quite a few other people know because, well, blood red crosses on people's wrists aren't accidents. But my "close" circle of friends if you like, don't know. I guess I just can't face dissapointing them like that. I'm also becoming concerned someone's going to get worried, tell a teacher, and they're going to throw that whole "duty of care" thing back in my face and tell my parents. If my friends found out they are likely to panic and try to "help". But they'd be so hurt if everyone knew before them, and seeing as at least one person seems to notice each day... yeah. So my question is this: if one of your friends was hurting themselves, would you want to know? Best way to tell them?
Thanks. I know this is seriously pathetic, and I feel very silly, but it's worth a try.
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Okay, first you're not pathetic, and it's not silly to ask for help even though it can be hard to.
As it happens I have some freinds who have cut or who are trying to give up, and when they first told me, at first I was irrationaly angry with them for doing it and for not telling me sooner. But once I was over that irrational anger, and we'ed talked about it, I realised why they felt they needed to do it. One of them did it as a stress reliver and the other did it as a form of punishment. The one who did it as punishment, I talked to him and he eventually came round to the fact that he needed help with some phycological problems.
The stress reliveing one, There isn't much I can do for her excpet talk to her and try to get her to relive her stress that way.
Obviously I don't know why you do it, but when you tell your mates, maybe you could try telling them in groups of two when you feel you are ready, and don't just say 'i cut' say 'I cut because...', then give them a chance to react to rant or w/e and then to come to terms with it. I belive that if they are good mates, then they will ask you what *you* want to do, if you want help and what can they do? They will probably offer their support in any way they can.
If you are worried about someone trying to help in a way you don't want, then maybe you should take matters into your own hands before it gets to that.
When you tell people, just be very calm, very explanitory and accept whatever their reaction is, as they will come around eventually.
I hope you get your promblem sorted and stop cutting, and its good you recognise that its not a great thing to cut.
*hugs* good luck :)
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