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her story
female,20 2 children eldest 2 youngest 7 weeks,differant dads when i drink alchol i get violent not al the time just when im stressed my partner over the past 4 weeks my partener has broken my finger n given me a black eye on both occasions he has said sorry and it will never happen again. he has taken my eldest son on as his own. i dont want to be a single mum with 2 children by differant fathers but i dont want to be a nervous wreck either i feel low in myself he alwys puts me down telling me im ugly and fat i just dont know which way to turn the violence only happens when we are both drunk please give me advice.
his story
this is what my girlfriend wrote.
just to clear a few things up. she used to hit me a lot. after about 5 different incidents a told her that if she didnt seek help i was leaving her. she went to see a shrink once! when she said i broke her finger what actually happened was she hit me so i held her hand so she hit me with the other so i grabbed that hand to so then she butted me in the nose so i butted her back and pushed her off the bed and thats how she broke her finger.
with the black eye we had an argument so i went and got in the spare bed she followed me in a started shouting and went for me and proper scratched my face (which has scared) so i pushed on the bed so she came for me again so i punched her. now i thoroughly regret what i did and the only reason it happened is coz we had both had vodka. i have quit drinking full stop. she on the other hand hasnt. i do really regret what happened but no one out there is perfect. i love her to pieces and i WONT do it again no matter wat u woman say. u woman have said leave him and get a restraining order. would u say that if u were twenty didnt work but looked after the kids while ur boyfriend went out and earned u both £25,000 a year and gave u everything u wanted. gave up his social life and got rid of all his friends to stay in every nite and look after you and the kids. i dont think u would. i know money aint every thing but it does help provide her with a good life style
a few other points. on the night i gave her a black eye she was extremely pissed and had already battered two girls that night for no reason she was completely out of control. she is an extremely violent person as well. i aint perfect by a long way but i aint 100% to blame and i dont think she should leave me like all you woman say cause i need her and she needs me. i love her no matter how much shit she gives me, okay i broke the boundary that you shouldnt hit a woman but she needed to know that it isnt nice being hit by your partner. how many woman would try taking an overdose because there boyfreind went out with a few mates from work (the first time ever!!) and stayed out till 9pm. not many. how was i meant to know she had post natal depression. how many guys actually know wat a woman is going through when she says she has it, none!!! now i have realised how badly she needs help and i have started giving it her.
do u think she should leave me
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to be truthful.. it sounds like yalls relationship is really rough and unless both of yall sober up and try to put some effort into it then its gunna go down the drain.. i hate to sound so depressin but thats wut im gettin from it.. the woman needs to get help bout ur abusive nature and drinking habits and maybe u cud join her for moral support.. but if that doesnt help then maybe yall just shudnt be together.. i wish yall the best of luck and i hope i helped..
-*Tay
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I think u two only need to drink a certain amount of alchohol . Just to get the measure of things because, the way you are talking, it seems like she starts with u and u go back .I really don't know but I think u should exercise some control over your drinking , and then see if u both can handle drinking together . U have to think about the children . They are watching this . Do this 4 them . I think if you continue to hit the WOMAN U LOVE, then she should leave u . Try not to put her down . She's a mother and that's very important because, mother's need to be content with themselves . Get a hold on how much u two drink or worry about you yourself . If that doesn't work, then just stop fully drinking alchohol because, being under the influence can bring loss of control . Be careful .
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Hi. I gave advice to thsi woamn. And I was the 17 year old who gave her way to look at things from the chil'ds perspective. I would just like to say i didn;t tell her to leave you. I told her, Some people hurt people and don't mean to but can't control themselves, and the 2 of you should help eachother to stop drinking or it was gonna ruin her children's lives. I hope I helped. :)
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