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He drinks :-/
The guy I REALLY like, loves to drink :-/ He gets drunk all the time except NOT when I'm around because I hate it! Should I still like this guy or move on? It's really hard to move on though... =(
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well i dont think you should move on because he knows you dont like it and atleast he doesnt do it around you but if he did do it around you them ya id say move on but since he doesnt do it around you then dont move on eventually if u tell him about how you feel then maybe hell stop
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Since you said he gets drunk all the time, leave him. How much fun can you be having hanging out with a guy who's either thinking about getting drunk, or getting a hangover. This dude needs to learn how to grow up, drinking all the time doesn't do that. Dude, you're better than that. Move on. Find yourself a cool straightedge dude if you hate the drinkers.
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Well, first off I can TOTALLY relate! My sorta boyfriend and I just got into a fight about this on Friday night! And, we almost broke up! So...you can't boss other people around or make their choices (good or bad) for them. You have to let them on your own. Also, you don't want to make this guy think that you're mad for the wrong reasons. To him, he's prolly just havin' fun with his buddies. And, to an extent you totally have to respect that. You don't have to like it, or agree with it, but you need to respect it. You're concern for him, shows you do truly care, and his choice not to drink around you shows his concern for you. So, if you really like this guy and want things to work out, I suggest you tell him how you feel. BUT do not do this when he is drunk..because then you will both say things you don't mean and you'll end up in a fight and/or losing one another. Wait until the next day or so and tell him that it upsets you that he drinks and gets drunk and that you do want him to have fun..but you don't think that it's healthy that he drink so much..Tell him that it scares you and you don't like the person he is when he is drunk. Tell him everything you are feeling. DONT yell at him for doing it, just tell him how you feel. If he really likes you and cares about oyu he will agree to stop or at least try to stop..((my sorta bf said that I was just what he needed to stop drinking and that he'd never do anything to jeaprodize our relationship because I mean too much to him)) If your guy gives you that kind of response, then just be patient with him. But, if he doesn't seem to care about how you feel, then yes you should move on to some1 who is going to care about you and respects you. It may be hard..but you gotta do it! Good luck! :)
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well its nice that he doesnt do it around you. but alchohol can make you do stupid stuff. so im not sure id trust him going out and drinking all the time w/out you. i can understand that it would be hard to move on especially if you get to see the good side of him and never the stupid drunken side. but honestly this guy is gonna end up getting in trouble with all the drinking he does. id talk to him about it and maybe... well tell him you dont like him doing it at all really and u want him to cut down or something :-/ otherwise yeah, you gotta find someone else.
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I had the same problem babe...if you don't like it say something, but thats all you can do. You can't expect him to change b/c no one changes for anyone unless they really want too...and if he likes you he'll change if not then go find yourself a new guy. I'm sure theres a guy JUST like him out there for you...but he doesn't drink
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k almost every guy i've liked drinks. if u think u can handle him drinking if you all date then go for it b/c he probably wont stop drinking unless he likes you a whole lot. i mean i've tried dating a guy does drugs (i hate it when guys do drugs) and it didn't work out. Or u could move on and i knwo its hard but u could find a guy that is much better and who doesn't drink. Its better to find a guy that fits to what you looking for. If u dont want a guy who drinks you should find one. Thats what i've done i look for guys who sont do drugs and its worked out alot betetr for me. I hoep some of this can help and everything works out. *Kisses* Ashley
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Well if you really like him and you have a problem with his drinking you should talk it over. Whether or not to move on is your decision, I guess this is kinda based on personal morals. It might be tough to move on, but if you've tried and it bothers you that much, you might have to. If he likes you back then he would at least try to lower the alcohol intake. No need to be nervous or anything, just have a talk so that he understands how you feel about it, and maybe things will work out.
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If yall arent dating then I would keep liking him. Just dont be around when hes drinking and the more you hang out, the less he'll drink! I suggest staying away when hes drunk, you never know what crazy things he'll do! Good luck!
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