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I need to talk to my parents.
Let me explain the whole situation, I'm gay, and I have a girlfreind, and we have been dating almost 4 months now. My parents know I am gay, they have known since the first few weeks of me dating my girlfriend. At first, they were okay (stress the OKAY) but they werent really accepting. The still arent. In usual coming-out situations between child and parent, the parent says "We still love you no matter what" type of thing. I told my mom, all she said was 'I'de rather you be straight" and she told my dad, who has said absolutly nothing to me within these 4 months. My mom acts okay about it occasionaly, but for the most part, she doesn't like it, and thinks me and my girlfreind spend too much time together. My dad just hates it, he has made that blatenly obvious, not through so much words, but just the way he looks at me and my girlfreind together, and how if I want to use the car to go see my best friend (whom he loves) he tells me I can have the car as long as I want, but when I want to see my girlfreind, he doesn't want me to use the car at all. My girlfriend says she doesn't feel welcome at my house, and I can definitly see why. I have tried having her over alot so they would get used to her, and maybe get to know her, and treat her like she was my best friend, but all they do is look coldly at her, and at me, and just ignore us the whole time we are there. I want to write them a letter, because I think, that if its writen down in words, it has more of an impact, because its there, written, right in front of you, but I have no idea where to start. Can anybody help me, please..?
Oh it says use age and gender for relationship questions. I'm 16 and I am a female.
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Alrighty. Well, if I was you, I would just forget what your parents think. Who cares? Both you and they can't control whether you are straight of gay. It doesn't matter at all, right? It is your life! Talk to your girlfriend and tell her that you are really working on trying to get your familys approval. If they still don't like you for who you are just forget about them. I think you are very smart for writing the letter because that way they can keep it and look at it everytime they are thinking their opinions of your life. In it try to tell them how your girlfriend feels about they way they treat you two. And if that doesn't work try having them sit down with you two and talk things over. Good Luck!!
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i figured u were a female but neway its ok about u being gay i know my friends sister is gay and my moms friend from work is gay and there both really nice just bcuz there doesn't mean there not nice when they r u should give ur parent time
Kate
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Alrightie - this is a bit of a toughie, as I've never been in this situation. Have YOU talked to your dad about it? If not, just sit him down and tell him the whole thing, and point out to him that he seems to be troubled by the whole idea and unaccepting. Remind him that you are his daughter and you'd still like him to support you, even if he doesn't like the idea.
Your sexual orientation is not something you can change, and your parents should realize that. Try talking to them again - separately, if you can. That way they can't give each other those "disapproving parent looks" we all hate so much.
Start by talking to them. If it doesn't change anything and you dunno what to do, you can contact me through this or AIM (SirenCytherea) and I'll try to help you as best I can. ^_^
Good luck!
-Siren
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