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how can i end things without hurting him to much?
Im female 15 and from scotland. I resently discovered that i had my feelings confused between my boyfriends and his best mate. I love my boyfriend he's sweet kind and generous but i with the realisation that my lust was completely directed at his best mate (who is currently going out with my bestfriend). I desided that i should end it with him, but how? i dont want him to hate me forever there might evan be hope to be friends, how can i end things without hurting him to much? And with out the cheesey line "can we still be friends?"
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Well, you should explain you don't have the strong feelings you once had for him. That you would love to still be friends, but do understand if he don't want too. That you aren't trying to hurt him, but you don't want to be hurt either. That you do care.
There isn't any best way to tell someone that you want to break up, so if you care about him, just try to do it nicely, and don't get upset if he gets upset. Good luck!
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unfortunately, with guys who are best friends, this type of decision is very difficult.
Im going to be honest with you, guys are not like us girls, if you were to break up with your boyfriend, and try to go out with his best friend, chances are, the best mate wont want to ruin his friendship with your guy, so he will probably not date you even if he DOES like you.
OR, the best mate might decide he does want to be with you, but that will ruin your relationship with your bestfriend, and also ruin the relationship between your boyfriend and his best mate.
if you really dont feel so strongly for your boyfriend, dont lead him on any longer, and tell him how you feel.
but be careful and think whos friendships will be hurt if you pursue the best mate. if you think theres no risk, then go for it!
do what makes you happy but just think it all through before you take action.
inbox me if you need anything. =]
steph
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