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im so confused!
Yo,
I have question and you may think that it is the same ol thing but i need anvice!
This "guy" that i crushed on for like 3 years and i finally got the guts to tell him he told me that he doesn't like me. well i lived but its like now i act like he is an idiot and stuff. but now he seems to be the one watching me and like he is really weird around me. he seems to stare at me when he thinks im not looking and stuff. see i know guyz send mixed signals cause this guy did it to me for 3 years. i don't know if he likes me now that im acting like i don't like him. the other problem is my best friend has a crush on him now and we are very honest with each other and i've told her that he is all hers but still like him. and i don't want him to end up liking her instead of me. so ya see my prob? im confused!
please give some advice!
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Boys are stupid. Just drop the whole thing because I've seen a situation similar to this. You two will somewhat "fight" over him even though you will both stay friends but when he finally chooses one of you, whichever one of you he doesn't choose will have their hearts crushed. If you aren't willing to take a risk then just move on. A guy showing mixed feelings obviously doesn't know what he's doing. The thing that you definately don't want to do is harm your friendship between you and your gal friend.
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hey so had this problem before. The probably dosent really like u. he just stares at you and stuff because he feels guilty. And if u and yuor friend are open and honest maybe you need to let her have a chance. after all she is your friend. If he dosent like your friend either you should try it again. Just come out and ask him if he likes u if he says yes hey go for it. If he says no say ok and dont think about it anymore u dont want to weigh yourself down. Keep it real lots of live.
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Yo,
Over the last 3 years this guy got used to your behavior because of you liking him. There were probably some good things that went along with it: you were probably extra nice to him, you cut him some slack, and maybe you even dated.
Chances are he knew about how you felt the whole time; if he didn't figure it out for himself someone else (maybe one of your friends) probably noticed and told him. If that's the case, he made the (rather selfish) decision to enjoy the benefits of your crush without giving you anything in return. That would explain the mixed signals. This isn't "using you", it's just enjoying the benefits of something that's in his favor. He got away with it up to this point because you didn't come right out and tell him you cared.
Now that you've told him, if you allow him the benefits of having you care about him, you are giving him a license to use you. His natural conclusion will be that you deserve to be used, and he might be inclined to start doing just that. So you have to stop giving him any benefits. You don't have to be mean, just stop hanging out with him and quit cutting him slack.
Now there's also a chance he was genuinely clueless about your feelings for him, in which case he's deciding whether or not he likes you. He might have just thought of you as a friend up until now. Take off and make him come after you-- stop hanging around him. This way, if he wants to come after you he will, and if he decides to date your friend, at least you won't have to watch.
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