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how do i go about teaching what i need without
offeding him'
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Since this is in the sex category, I assume you mean "how do I explain to my lover what fulfills my sexual needs?"
Some ideas for getting communication started:
* talk dirty
* if talking is too difficult at first, try sending a "love" letter. If that's still too hard at first, practice with tame things like "I can't wait to feel your arms around me" or "I miss your sweet kisses" and try to put something a little more explicit in each time.
* find a picture of something you would like to do and leave it in a private spot with a note that says something like "can't wait to see you again".
* don't fake it when it doesn't feel good. if it hurts, make sure he knows - either pull away, go "ouch!", or do the "baby, don't hurt me like that" thing
* When something feels good, respond positively. Feedback is good. :)
Another option is to take charge yourself. Some lovers will like it, some won't, but hopefully yours will let you know one way or another and you can use that to open up a dialog.
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Simply tell him and be honest. It's likely best to phrase it as helpful advice and not a criticism of him, though if he keeps doing something wrong, feel free to politely criticise.
Most guys need help and the better ones actively ask for it. Guys aren't girls and don't have the same parts so they're going into it with a disadvantage from the start. Even then regardless of how many women a man has been sexually involved with each one is different and likes different things in a different manner.
It's a good thing that you asked this though. Not many women (or men for that matter) are able to ask for what they want and often this leads to unenjoyable sex for all concerned. It's your body and your orgasm so just be honest about what you want and help him to understand how to do it best. I'm sure you'll have him trained properly in no time. ;)
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you can tell him in a sexual way and dissgiss it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you could go like this: come over here and i will show you something then you can teach him!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Please elaborate on your question. Who are you not wanting to offend? And what are you wanting to teach this someone?
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be strong. and firm.
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honey, if he's offended, he's not the man for you! pleasing a woman isn't something that comes all that natural for the majority of men, hey, we're complicated. Sooner or later they all have to learn to accept some constructive criticism. He'll probably take it better than you think he will. Just smile a lot and offer one helpful hint at a time so he's not overwhelmed and you'll be fine.
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