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*sigh* What should I do?
Okay, so I've liked this guy for a while, but he wasn't really into having a girlfriend. It took me a while, I'm still hurting, but I've managed to step away for a bit and let him go. If it's meant to be it'll happen, he's a great guy, but it hurts too much to wait. Well, I started to meet new people, and one of them happens to be 20. He's really nice, but kind of strange. I'm not sure if he really likes me, or just wants to get in my pants. Also, he's really depressed and slightly suicidal. Then there's this other guy. He's 17 (i'm 16), and seems nice. I met him through my best friend (a guy), but from what I've heard he's a player and he's also got like, 3 other girls he's flirting with. My friend told me that he's not a cheater, and is looking for a girlfriend... but I dunno. It's just really frustrating! Where are all the really great guys? The ones who can commit? I'd really like to be w/ the first guy, but he may not wanna get together for a while... if ever. I'm just really pissed, where's my price charming? What should I do? I really need some help. Thanks, and srry for the length.
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Prince Charming doesn't exist, hon. He never did. NOONE will ever be everything you need/want in a man. But, you can and should, decide what will make you happy and not take anything less than that from anyone.
As for the one you've liked for a while. You did the right thing, give him some room, let him gather his thoughts. If he comes to you, great. If not, then you'll not have wasted your time.
As for the 20 year old. Hmmmmm, ok. ANY 20 year old who even THINKS about doing anything with a 16 year old is bad news, trust me on this one. You should already consider him a non-factor. Not to mention he's depressed and suicidal. How can anyone who thinks their own life is so unimportant possibly think yours is?
As for the last one. Anyone flirting with three girls at once is a player, hon. I don't care what you call it. If he's truly looking for a girlfriend, his actions should tell you that. He'll stop seeing the others, make himself more available to you, and you won't find yourself having to ask the question, " What should I do". Any time you have to question where to go with someone, then chances are good that there's nowhere to go.
Take your time. You're only 16. What's the rush? Slow down and really take a good look at the guys you meet. Who knows....you may even see one riding up on a horse one day and prove me wrong. But as for now. There are no 16, 17 or 20 year old Prince Charmings.
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I don't think you should wait forever for the first guy. If he was interested he would probably have shown a sign by now. So I would move on, although it is a little dissappointing.
The second one, the depressed suicidal one, may be too much work. You need someone who will treat you good and make you feel good.
The third one, the one you think may be a player, might be your best bet. Just because he hasn't wanted to commit to the girls he has been with in the past doesn't mean he won't with you.
But you should be patient. Sometimes your prince can show up when you aren't looking so hard. Just remember you are valuable, expect to be treated well, and don't settle for less.
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Try them both out. See if the 17 year old guy really is a cheater and if the 20 year old really d just wants to get in your pants. It never hurts to just talk to them.
-shay :-)
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Coming from an 18 yr old i know exactally where you are comming from. I have had the same problem so many times. But for some reason i am better at giving people advice then taking my own advice. First of all you are 16 and i know that having a boyfriend right now is really important to you. But what i have learned is that u can't go out there and search for that perfect guy (well at least not at this age) Guys take longer to mature then girls do. Girls know what they want at this age (well at least we think we have an idea) guys dont. But You mentioned this 20 yr old. He may be a little more mature then the guys your age but look at all the drama he has in his life. Being depressed and suicidel. You dont need that right now! You are a teenager and have your whole life to look forward to. Ya boyfriends can be really fun but they can break your heart really easily too. It just depends on who u choose to date. On the other hand this guy who u say u met and think hes a player, thats trouble. I am sure u have heard "once a player always a player" before, and from my experence this is true. Dont rush into things, u will only end up getting hurt.- please write me back,or u can e-mail me at lucky2bkt@aol.com i am willing to help you with any of your questions or problems. or i am here if u just want someone to talk to. -KT
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Hmm. It's my policy that if you can't focus on one guy, you're probably not ready for a relationship right now. Like it or not, guys can complicate an already complicated life, and who needs that? Just forget about the guy troubles for a little while and just focus on being friends with everyone. Once you stop looking for Prince Charming, and admit that you're fine on you own, he just happens to come along out of no where. It sounds too good to be true, I know, but a guy that deserves you will be attracted to your self confidence in your boyfriendless state. Just remember, DON'T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING BUT THE BEST.
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