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first kiss blues
my guy friend has always had a crush on me and he would always- i htought. i always kinda took it for granted that he was there for me to be reassured that i was still attractive but i jsut found out that he really likes somebody else. any advice on how to deal?
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Well look at it from his point of view. I had the same problem I was in love with my best friend since we were children I always told myself there are other girls out there, but she was the one I wanted. I dated but it wasn't what I wanted. She knew I wanted her but she kept her feelings to herself. When I turned 17 I gained another crush and she got extremely hurt because I wasn't there to follow her around help her with homework and everything else. I thurt being last in line no put yourself in his shoes the one guy you knew liked you no matter what was slightly pushed or set aside for your convience. If you share the feelings he has for put your friendship aside a make it a relationship you never know he might surprise you.
Hope that helped
Cspinoza1
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if he's just your friend and you don't go out then i would say to go out with a guy yourself and if you(meaning your friend and you) are dating then there's nothing wrong with having a crush. if he isn't dating this girl-or even if he is you should tell him how you feel he'll probably listen
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Dear FIRST KISS BLUES,
Okay ,I don't want to sound like Dr.Laura or anything but you don't need him (okay ,maybe you do, but he doesn't need to know that).Don't try to play that"jealousy game" cause most guy friends are really serious dudes. He'll really get ,mad and think that you're some immature little kid that is jealous,takes people for granted, and is very envious of people who has hers. what you should do is NOT tell him how you feel cause i just did that last thursday and it wasn't pretty, but act like your happy for him.REMEMBER no relationship last forever and when they break up, go for it.All you have to do is be compassionate and at the right moment go in for the kill.
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If I understand correctly, he just was around and a friend, crushing on you and making you feel attractive... now he's moved on. Well, take solace in the fact that you attract well-adjusted guys I guess.
Other people will come along... you know it's true 'cause it just happened for him.
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This sounds like a great guy who has been there for you. Now it's your turn to be there for him. You need to support him and give him good, friendly advice if he needs it. Secondly, you don't need a guy to tell you you're attractive to feel attractive. It's soo important to have self confidence without the validation of a guy--or anyone for that matter. Put aside insecurities, and be a friend to him.
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Let it blow over. He is still your friend, right? Let him like her and just be his friend. You never know, maybe a guy like him will appear in front of you...
~Jollylollipop
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welll... lets see... ur "guy friend" has always had a crush on you right? then u find out that he likes another girl and now u feel totally bummed right? and u r asking how to deal? is there any chance u started liking him more than just a "guy friend"? because if u did and still do thats going to be a problem. if u like him more than just a "friend" there is really no way to really "deal". i know this is stuf u may already know but im saying because u may not relized it yet. and don't feel like ur ugly and not pretty. because if he lost intrest. its his loss. but if u can;t get him off ur mind and when u see him u start to feel funny. u may REALLY like him and i think u should ask him why he lost intrest. and tell him ur feelings about him. i mean u may end up with more pain but atleast u would know.
this is my idea but don't take what i have to heart if it doesn't feel right.
always
~kat~bare~
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Don't depend on a guy to feel "attractive"- you need to know inside you're hot, and then you won't need to worry about what other people think. :) I was in your shoes before, but then the guy changed so drastically for the worse that it made me feel like I had standards for guys. I guess my advice is you need to convince yourself that you're beautiful, and then you won't worry about this guy anymore.
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Quite taking things for grantide. Really apressiate the things that you have now. Maybe get to know someone else and forget about your old b/friend.
-shay :-)
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