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Too depressed!
Hello there and a happy 2004!
I am 14 years old and I am a student of 19(20 is the highest mark)(I live in Greece and there are no marks like A,B,C etc.)Anyway I always feel depressed because of the people in my town.You see here everyone thinks that being a good student is the only thing that matters and if you are not you will be a failure.I study only 30 to 60 minutes each day.Many relatives of mine keep saying that if I studied as much as other children do I would be the first.I tell them that this may be actually true but I say that I want to have my life.They still pressure me and I have a lot of stress.Please help !What to do?
Thank you,Theo.
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I'd say that 19 is a good grade. Especially when you consider that you're only 14 and your grades won't be influential for a few years.The study advice I was given when I was 14 gave an hour a day as the normal study period.
Maybe if you explained to a few people how upset their criticism makes you then they would be a little more supportive. I hate to say the word but maybe a 'compromise' is in order. If you agreed to study for an extra half hour a day for a month to see what difference it makes people in your town would be more approving and it wouldn't encroach too much on your life. Do you do any extra curriculars like sport or drama or anything? If you do then you could point out that they are just as, if not more, enriching then a little extra study. You could start up something you think you might enjoy if you aren't already doing something.
When you study do you just sit and read your textbooks or are you doing homework( questions and projects etc)? Try studying in different ways until you find a style that suits you. Study for periods of 20-30 minutes and take a 5-10 minute break in between sessions. Make flash cards and coloured diagrams,mind maps, spider diagrams, lists, Q+A sheets. It might be that your study bores you and is not as effective as it could be because you are using a method that doesn't suit you. Oh and don't study straight after getting home from school.
Always remember- YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!
Make up a list of good things about you and read it aloud to yourself everyday. You musn't let other people's opinion of you get you down.
If you feel yourself getting stressed then turn you music on really loud and sing along (it works for me) or get a cushion and punch it. If you do a martial art then do a sequence.
Ok, I hope that helps a bit. get back to me and let me know how it goes or if you need anything else.
w00t for Theo!
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